Attract - Don't Chase - A Great Relationship

David Wygant   Attraction and Dating Expert

     Recently I posed a question to my clients. I gave them the choice of two places and asked in which place they'd rather be: an island in the middle of the ocean so absolutely beautiful, enchanting, amazing and mysterious that everyone wants to come to it.  Or, on a boat chasing the waves all day long, looking for the next wave and looking for the next big adventure that's going to make you feel good. 

     Let me tell you something.  People who answered the second choice, saying they'd rather be on the boat, are people who are constantly chasing.  They're always looking for something that doesn't exist.  They tend to be looking for a fantasy.  If you're always chasing the next best thing, it means that you're not present with what's happening in the moment.  You're not aware of what's happening in the moment. 

     You always think there's going to be a bigger wave, a better wave, a more clear ocean, and a deeper ocean.  What happens is that instead of attracting people, you're chasing them.  You're one of those people who go around chasing people all day long.  You haven't learned the art of attraction.  You haven't learned what attraction is really all about, so what you do is chase.  You see somebody, you chase them, but then you don't relate to them because you're looking for the next "better" thing. 

     When you're an island, i.e., you're secure, you're sensual, you're erotic in your passion and you're mysterious, people are attracted to you.  When you walk around as an island that's full of confidence and radiates great energy, then everybody wants to come and touch you.  Everybody wants to sit under your tree.  Everybody wants to go hang out on your beach.  People want to party in your bars. People want to hang out with you in every which way. 

     The reason for this is that islands are more interesting and have different depths to them.  There's the dry side of the island.  There's the wet side of the island.  There's a sunny side of the island.  There's a cloudy side of the island.  An island has emotional depth.

     On the other hand, all a boat knows how to do is to go fast or slow . . . and nothing in between.  When a boat is just cruising, most people get bored and they want to go fast again.  Conversely, an island has so many different places to go and so many different things to see. 

So you want to be a diverse island.  You want to learn how to attract.  Most of you don't know how to attract.  Most people chase.

All the power to you.