Be Open in Dating and in Life
By David Wygant Dating Expert
How open are you? As each day passes, are you becoming more or less open about your life? How open are you about the prospect of you finding true love? There is a mindset I always have which, if you will adopt it, will change not only your dating life but your entire life experience. It's a concept I like to call "the open door."
I recently saw an old friend with whom I grew up and had lunch with him. We spent a long time catching up with each other and talking. We talked about life and relationships, but the topic of conversation inevitably came back to the status of our respective dating lives. It was this conversation with him that prompted me to write this article for all of you.
I believe we get to a point in our lives when we think we know everything. The problem with this is that many people at this point believe that they not only know and have experienced everything, but they also believe that there is nothing new left to experience and thus become closed. They are no longer open to life. They haven't done enough work on themselves to remain open.
I was telling my friend that I am right now the most open that I've ever been in my entire life, which seems to be the reverse of how most people's lives go. Due to their life experiences - hurt, failed relationships, love gone bad - they become more closed to life as time goes on and as they age. As they get older, most people become less open to things. This is, however, the exact opposite of how you should become in your life as you age.
You need to be the most open to life as you get older, because you should be learning and embracing every life lesson as you experience them. Every single person you've met has been a life lesson for you. You should not think that certain people were brought into your life just to hurt you, but instead should think of them as people who were in your life to teach you something.
I told my friend that because I'm right now the most open that I've ever been, I am also right now open to whatever possibilities life might bring me. I'm open to experiencing the most incredible love. I'm open to experiencing the most incredible connection with another person. The only reason I am so open right now is because of everything I've experienced in my past.
The masses tend to go in the direction of feeling more and more wounded. The masses tend to go in the direction of being less and less open. Going in these directions, though, are the biggest mistakes in the entire world. Think about it. The new person you met today did not hurt you. That new person you've met has not cheated on you. That new person you met did not betray your love for them. That new person is in your life to explore new things with you based on everything you've learned in your past.
So I think all of you who are spending way too much time thinking about what's happened to you in your past are cheating yourselves. You're not concentrating on the present, which is where life happens. If you are not open to the amazing things that could come into your life, then you are just "ripping yourself off" from so much of what is out there waiting for you. So I want to challenge all of you by asking you this question: Are you living in the past?
Ask yourself whether you are allowing past failures, mistakes and pain to dictate the way you're currently conducting yourself in relationships, or whether you are 100% in tune with what is happening presently so you are able to embrace whatever is happening to you at this moment. Living and embracing the present are the only way to live. Being open to life right now is the only way I'm choosing to live. I am so open for an amazing love in my life, because I know I'd be cheating myself if I didn't allow myself to experience that.
All the power to you