Becoming More Attractive

(A Prelude)

-Devlyn Steele

You are incredibly attractive! I bet that grabbed your attention. Why wouldn't it, after all, we all love to hear that we are attractive. However we might not always feel attractive. Feeling attractive is very important regardless if you are in a relationship or not, dating or not, or anything in-between.

Why is feeling attractive so important? Feeling attractive will give you more confidence in more areas than just relationship and dating. It will effect how you feel about yourself and how you approach other people. This can effect all your relationships, including where you work. When you feel more attractive you feel better about yourself and do better in the world.

In the area of romance, attraction is the magnet that pulls people together. Some might think once you are in a relationship that it does not remain as important. That very thinking changes not only how you feel about yourself, but the quality of the relationship itself. We should keep wanting to be attractive and creating that spark between partners.

Bottom line, we should all want to be more attractive. This does not mean we should be lining up outside a plastic surgeons office, attraction goes way beyond your looks. What are the qualities of attraction and how can you become more attractive?

First let me start with a very simple saying;  "You are as attractive as you decide to be."

I know that sounds too simple and more than that, most people want to be attractive. So if it was as simple as deciding to be, wouldn't we all just decide to be attractive?

Regardless of physical attributes, we all go through stages when we don't feel attractive.  This feeling has no limits based on who you are.  I have coached actors, models, and music industry personalities.  Even as much as they are admired and desired by others, often they do not feel attractive.

We can change how attractive we feel, and are, by the actions we take. There are tools you can learn to change how attractive you feel and are.

There are two aspects that will effect how attractive you feel you are:

1. How you feel about yourself.

2. The level of effort you put into yourself. 

These two aspects directly affect each other.  How you feel about yourself will determine the level of effort you put into yourself, and the level of effort you put into yourself will determine how you feel about yourself. 

Then there are two aspects that will determine how attractive you are to others:

1. How you look.
2. How you act.

How you look will be effected by how you feel about yourself, which will affect the level of effort you put into yourself and the energy you give off to others. How you feel about yourself will also affect how you act.

The core is how you feel! It all starts with how attractive you feel, because that will determine not only how others see you, but if you don't feel attractive to yourself, you won't be able to appreciate or accept how someone else sees you, regardless. Which reminds me of a quote from B.A. Billingsly:

"My friend, if I could give you one thing, I would wish for you the ability to see yourself as others see you. Then you would realize what a truly special person you are."

The fact is, we are all very special and deserving of a rewarding relationship, filled with real love respect, honesty and enjoyment!  You have to change your inner dialog.  Regardless of your situation, regardless of the past and regardless of any physical attributes, you need to understand that you can create a new present and a better future. Treat yourself with the value you have. 

You deserve to feel attractive and attraction starts with how you feel about yourself. So if you want to be more attractive start on the inside and you will shine on the outside.

This article is a prelude to a new program called, "The Art of Attraction" which will be available April 1, 2010 giving you all the Tools to become more attractive inside and out.

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