Breaking the Scripts
When an actor comes to me and wants to discuss his character, I say, 'It's in the script."
If he says, "'But what's my motivation?" I say, "Your salary."
- Alfred Hitchcock
We all have scripts that run through our brain all day long. These scripts are thoughts that define who we are to ourselves. They are how we define who we are, and often these scripts are unfortunately negative and self-limiting.
We develop these definitions of ourselves from repeatedly experiencing and thinking the same way over and over. We learn that we are not in charge of many aspects of our life. We are often late, or forgetful, or in bad relationships, disorganized, not good with money, unable to handle pressure, or unable to get in shape. It can go as far as not believing that we deserve love and to be in a good relationship. From big to small we have these thoughts and these thoughts control how we live and approach our lives. These thoughts define our behavior and our outlook of life.
Negative self-scripts can lead to:
Lack of self-esteem and low self-belief
Negative outlook about yourself and the world
Depression, cynicism, pessimism, self-pity, victim mentality
Inability to change circumstances
Worst of all self-fulfillment prophecies cause you to act in ways that achieve negative outcomes in your life.
We did not set out to write negative self-limiting scripts, but they are written. Through our early life experiences that we did not choose, we developed these outlooks. Although we did not choose them, we now can choose to change them. If these scripts are the operating controls of your behavior, and they are not allowing you to act in a way to realize the results you want in life, and you could change them, wouldn't you want to?
In order to change these scripts we have to get involved in how we think. We literally have to reprogram our thinking. Now this is not a quick or easy task. It does not happen in a few days, but over time in the same manner that we can get in shape by working out, we can get our mind on a better and stronger path.
Learning how to use affirmations to rewrite your self-scripts is a powerful tool to creating not only new thoughts about yourself, but new behavior that will lead to the life you want. Using affirmations, and developing a positive outlook that you can create change in your life is a powerful and positive key element to life success. Using affirmations, you can turn failure around into success, and you then can create the life you want.
Realize that the changes you want in your life are created by changing how you think. Add affirmations to your daily routine and then you can literally rewrite the scripts that control your behavior. As you change your behavior you will start to create new results. Do this everyday and you are on your way to writing your own script towards the life you want. After all you are the star of your own movie called, "My Life," don't you want to get involved in the roll your character plays? Start rewriting your scripts today!
Nickg at Mon, Sep 06 06:25 PM:
Thanks Coach , for your words of wisdom. To change our scripts breaking our old habits is part of the equation of change to a new way of being. Any tools we can use including affirmations help us to create a new script.
I like to start my affirmationas with the words, "I am happy and excited about"_________ and to finish them with ..... "in an easy and relaxed way with a healthy and possitive manner."
Your Monday Inspirations are always a wonderful way to set up the week.
Learnhealth at Thu, Sep 15 03:14 AM:
Day one for me and I can't get enough.
coachlifejohn229 at Mon, Oct 24 04:01 PM:
Thanks so true
ai at Wed, Oct 26 05:48 PM:
Still wish I could change my thinking more instantly. I know that it takes time. These articles help keep me positive and remind me that I am responsibile for my life.