Get Deep

So I went to an interesting gathering tonight.  It was a friend’s birthday party where all kinds of random people were invited.  Sometimes it’s great to encourage your friends to bring people you don’t know, so you have the chance to expand your social core, and your whole social network.

It was fun and interesting that the whole evening was just about speaking to a lot of different people, and learning about them.   

Here's something I want to share:  In order to meet some really amazing people, you have to be open to just talking to everybody.  You need to pay attention to who you connect with at an event, who you share views with, and especially who you relate with on a deeper level . . . instead of staying at the superficial level of talking to people about the weather or the recent sports game. 

For me what was great about this party is I invited someone really interesting who I’d recently met. She showed up, and we ended up talking all night long about life issues and opinions and just about everything.  I was sharing an evening with someone who was simply really cool. 

I learned something myself, I want to tell you about, since most of the time we’re talking about ways to meet someone, how to get a date, and how to break through your fears. 

What about learning how to get to a deeper level?  For those of you that have been in relationships, how do you really touch and connect with the core of someone?  Because that’s what you’re looking for . . . that deeper connection with someone's core. 

Here’s something else that was really interesting tonight.  A lot of us have been through a ton of family stuff and we have different family backgrounds.  I grew up with, I’d say, not a lot of love in the house.  I wasn't built up in my core with a lot of love and family love, so there’s definitely a fear of intimacy that’s within me.  It was incredible for me to think about that, because you absolutely have to love yourself to a core before you can actually meet someone and love them. 

Think about that for a little while.  Spend more time on yourself.  Spend more time on accepting who you are. Notice and accept what you’re all about, instead of always trying to find someone who will fill your life or satisfy you in a superficial way.

Talk to you soon,