How Do You Know When It's Love?

David Wygant  Dating Expert

     What does love mean to you?  What is the definition of love?  What do you feel like when you are in love?  What I am really asking here is what is real love?  You know, it is funny.  Love has so many different angles, different sides and different feelings attached to it.  There are also different kinds of love.  There is romantic love and there is fantasy love. 

     To me, love is finding somebody with whom you just connect and with whom you are at total peace in every single way.  Being at peace with someone in every single way happens in all different little ways.  It is holding hands with them as you walk down the street while still keeping your full identity.  It is sitting next to them on the airplane looking at them and watching them laugh, and realizing that their laughter really makes you smile.  It is watching them fall asleep and enjoying how they look curled up in a little ball on the bed all comfortable and warm.  It means protecting them when things are not good.  It is loving how their eyes light up when you do special things for them, like buying them a pair of earrings at an art festival. 

     Love is about sharing yourself and about giving yourself freely to someone.  Love is about really embracing the gift that somebody gives you.  Sometimes we're not ready for that gift of love.  Sometimes we are not capable of giving back. 

     The moment you realize you love somebody, is the moment when you feel peace when you look at him or her and when you see yourself in that person.  It's really nice to get to know somebody in every way and respect them. 

     There is no “one perfect person” in this world for anybody.  There is no perfect relationship out there. 

So if you find someone to whom you can truly relate, someone who really makes your heart go “thump, thump,” and someone whom you think is the most beautiful person in the world to you every time you see them walk into a room, then that is the person with whom you should be spending the rest of your time.  That is the person with whom you need to build a life.

     Love has its ups and downs.  Sometimes love may falter and then come back even stronger.  Sometimes love loses faith in order to regain it stronger down the road. 

     When you find someone you truly love, things may not go in textbook order or work out according to plan.  It may not work out at all for a period of time.  If you realize you love someone, though, you had better do everything in your power to make sure you never lose that person. 

     There is nothing worse than seeing someone you love walking down the street arm-in-arm with somebody else, and realizing that you lost that person because you let your ego or your stubbornness get in the way.  That thought alone will drive you crazy forever and ever.  When you love somebody, you had better embrace them before you lose them.  What eventually happens in life if you someone and you're not with them, is that they will find someone else to love them.  So you better take hold of that love before it's too late.

     The definition of love means so many different things to different people.  So ask yourself these questions: What's your definition of love?  How do you feel when you are in love?  What type of love do you want to experience?