Improving Your Relationship Is As Easy As 1-2-3
-Devlyn Steele
 
Your mind manifests what you feed it.  So what do we tend to tell ourselves about the relationships we have?  We often focus on the things that we don’t like or that annoy us.  We let the little things plague our minds, and we review them over and over.  This results in hostilities and resentments building up in our relationships.  In truth, we never are fighting about what we are fighting about. Our fights are just outlets for built up resentments. We let little episodes blow up because they manifest what we have already focused on, our negativity.
 
We can improve our relationships dramatically by refocusing our minds. Let's change the channel and remind ourselves of what we like about our relationships and partners.  Take control by creating and using a relationship grateful list. This might seem strange, but it is really more strange to focus on annoyances rather than love and appreciation in a relationship. What do you want to think about in regards to your relationships? What feelings do you want to promote?
 
Take the time to list at least ten things you like about your partner and/or people in your life.  Then, each morning, afternoon and evening recite three things from your list out loud that you like about your partner. It is really not that hard as this only takes seconds to recite three things, three times a day. The reality is that we spend a lot more time being consumed with what we do not like. Reverse the trend and you will reverse how you feel and what you experience..
 
The amazing thing is that when you refocus your mind on the positive in your relationships, you experience your relationships as being more positive without anything changing. The little things stop annoying you, and you actually begin to enjoy each other more.  Life is also a self-fulfilling prophecy; as you become focused on the positive in your partner, in time, he or she becomes more positive with you.  Guess what?  Sex gets better too!
Sure there are aspects about your relationship partner that do drive you nuts. Let me ask you, are those things really going to change? Trust me, we are all annoying. The trick is to fall in love with the very things that drive you the most crazy. Yes, it is also true that you will disagree as well. I hope though, that you agree on one thing, that you love each other and want to spend time together.

Use a Relationship Grateful List.  List at least 10 things you like in your partner and State Out Loud three things three times a day:
 
1.               ________________________
2.               ________________________
3.               ________________________
4.               ________________________
5.               ________________________
6.               ________________________
7.               ________________________
8.               ________________________
9.               ________________________
10.             ________________________

If you’re in a bad relationship, then what can I say?  I don’t offer magic solutions.  However, if you intend to stay in the relationship, focus on what you like, and things will get better! Improving the quality of your relationship experience is as easy as 1,2,3 ... recite three things you like, three times a day, everyday.
 
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Valentines Tip:
State Out Loud to the person in your life all the qualities you appreciate about him or her.