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Personal Space Revolution - Article from our Life Coaching Programs
Personal Space Revolution
Devlyn Steele
We live in a day of information overload. From the moment we wake up our email inbox is full. Each email other than the ones promising you riches, love and the best sex ever are emails that request something from you from someone you know. Even if it is as little as a response each one represents a request on your time. We feel so tied to our email that often checking our email is one of the first things we do in the morning and the last thing we do at night.
Then as we are checking our email our computer is filled with our news feeds that we feel we have to be on top of right away. After we check our email and news, our phone already has a few text messages and voice mails with more requests. As we leave our living space we transfer everything we used to leave behind at home till we got to the office onto our phones where it now follows us wherever we go. When do we give our brains a moment to breathe?
Not only do we put this nonstop pressure on ourselves, the people we know make sure we feel it as well. If you do not respond right away the assumption is that there is something wrong. I got a text request that I did not reply to right away the other day and five minutes later another text from the same person asking, "Are you ok?" Well, actually I was in the bathroom, or maybe I was having a conversation or a meal or just taking a walk. Are we not allowed to take a break from our phones and communication without it meaning that something is wrong?
We are making ourselves crazy with information and communication overload. You need to take a break. You need to set limits. You deserve time to just be. Trust me, a little time away from your Iphone or Blackberry will not end the world. You are not as important as you think you are; no one will die if they do not hear from you for a few hours. The person requesting your attention is not as important as they think they are, either. Calm down, give the people you know some space, and take some space for yourself.
Set limits. Otherwise, you are on an electronic leash. When you have a meal with someone or even by yourself, turn off your phone. It can wait. When you are driving, your text message can wait till you get to a safe place. Declare some time for yourself each day. Talk a walk and actually leave your phone at home. Don't wake up and check your email first thing, start your day off by a routine that is about you, and end your night the same way. When you exercise leave the phone behind; otherwise you are not getting the endorphins that reenergize you.
What we do not realize is that each moment we are staring at the phone and or computer it takes energy. If you want to be more productive and happy in your life, set limits and get off your electronic leash. The people you spend time with might actually get to enjoy your company, and you theirs. We had the Industrial Revolution, the Information Revolution, the Technology Revolution. Now it is time for us to take our space back with the Personal Space Revolution. Join today!
Love this! It's time we take control of how we use electronics. Spending all or most of our time on internet pursuits can numb us to real relationships. We've become use to noise and instant gratification.
What if we waited a while and listen to silence?
Inez Bracy
http:///www.overfiftyfineandfancy.com
So true. I start to twitch after a bit and definitely dont know when enough is enough. I didnt have a cell phone until 2 years ago, now I might as well glue it to my forehead! It makes me twitchy and only reinforces my already too short attention span!
Taking a break!
Mike
Just fabulous. This is right down the same alley as my new book "Wide Asleep Slumber No More"
Thank You for the reminder.
I agree that much is expected from us throughout the day, and those requests come in the form of emails, calls, texts, tweets, etc. etc. etc. I love the idea of starting and ending the day focused on something other than our "electronic leash." I wonder, though, how much of the attachment we feel to our electronics is based on what we expect of others. Does our desire to be "needed" or "wanted" drive us to constantly check for texts, emails, and missed calls? How do we feel when we put our phones away for a while, only to come back and find that nobody was looking for us? In addition to breaking free from our leashes, I think we also need to focus on really enjoying ourselves, and putting away our desire to be needed by others.
this is a real great idea i believe that i am going to start do that myself. Every one needs a little "ME" time.
Sometimes, when it all gets too much, people constantly pressing for your time, money, attention, you really just need to get away and chill out, all by yourself, no cell, no ipod, no blackberry and no one who will know where you are and what you're up to.
Just make a whole day of it. Go to your favorite cafe or bookstore, library. Sit, read, drink, eat and unwind. Talk to new people, share your time with them.
Or get out in nature and take a hike, take a pair of binacolurs, and get to know the birds and enjoy them. If you are close enough to the beach, by all means, let it heal your savage soul.
You, yourself, will know when the time is nigh to return, but not before. Take a camera, a sketch book and a journal. collect rocks, bond with your angels and the fairies, as you of course will, anyway.
Return before midnight, about a minute before the witching hour and realize your soul is at rest at least until the next time.
Heal yourself and you won't need any drugs to sleep, fight depression or anxiety.
Good luck on your soul sojurn. Just don't tell anyone where or why. If they ask, just smile politely and keep silent, all-knowing.
Maybe they will figure it out for themselves. And then do the same.
Dear Devlyn: I quite agree with your comments, as invariably our best doctor, or mentor, is indeed our very own selves - what religion, then, if any, do you subscribe to? Do you have any views on the new religion of Scientology, which is currently, and allegedly, sweeping the world off its feet !!! S.