David Wygant   Attraction Expert

     There is a certain exercise that I have all my clients do. It is meant to show them what they usually don't see, or to show them a misperception they have, about what kind of image they project to the world.  It is meant to help them see how others people perceive them.

     Do you know what other people think of you?  Now I am not talking about caring what other people think of you (since anyone who knows what I teach knows that is NEVER something about which I tell  people they should be concerned).  The reason to do this is because many people believe they are seen or perceived in certain ways by others that simply aren't true.  It's often those misperceptions that cause people to lack self-confidence or to fail to take action they should in their dating life.

     Here's how to do this exercise: Ask five people what they think about you.  Specifically, ask them to tell you the answers to these four questions: (1) What type of energy do you convey? (2) What type of confidence do you convey? (3) What do you look like? and (4) How do you dress?  Again, this is not about conforming yourself to how others think you should be.  This exercise is to show you if you are an optical illusion. 

     Let me give you an example.  I have a client named Rob who is a great guy.  The other night we were out to dinner having a long talk.  If you just met him, you'd say Rob is a confident, great-looking guy with a great image.  The truth, though, is that it's all an optical illusion.  He projects these things to everyone who sees him, but deep inside he doesn't really believe it.  This is his fundamental issue. He doesn't believe that he's good-looking.  Rob is 5'7," but if you sat with him at a table you'd think he was 6'2."  He has this incredibly large persona.

     Rob's problem is that he doesn't believe any of these things about himself.  Everyone sees all these amazing qualities except for him.  Rob is what I call an optical illusion.  This is why many people  come to me for coaching, because what I can do for them is to really work on what's going on inside of them.  It's great if you can exude great qualities, but if you don't actually believe that you possess them then other people won't either.

     When you first glance at Rob, you believe it.  When you hear him talk, you still believe it.  If Rob doesn't believe it himself, though, he will never be able to really connect with a woman.  He won't be able to approach them, ask for their number or ask them out on a date.  To be able to do all these things, he needs to really believe all these things about himself.  And those of you who can relate to Rob - those of you who live in a life of optical illusions - you need to do something to make yourself believe it.

     If you are an optical illusion, you need to invest your time and money in personal development. You need to invest in YOU.  You are your own corporation, and you need to invest in yourself.  What are you waiting for to decide today is the day you start to change yourself?  If you are an optical illusion, i.e., if everyone thinks that you are confident on the outside but you don't feel that way about yourself on the inside, then your life is never going to change unless you start doing internal work on yourself.

So here is a suggestion  - and a challenge - I have for all of you: I want you to go out there and find out if you are an optical illusion.  I want you to ask five friends what they think of you.  Ask them those four questions I listed earlier.  Find out today if you are an optical illusion.  If you are, we really need to get you started doing some inner work on your brain.  It won't change by itself.  If it could, you already would have been able to self-motivate and make it happen.  Consider this the first step - a little friendly kick in the rear - to getting rid of that optical illusion that you may be conveying to the world.

All the power to you.