Why You Should Strive For More in Your Dating Life

David Wygant  Dating Expert

     I write all the time about ways to go out and meet someone.  I am always talking about breaking through fears, getting over rejection and how to present your self confidently in every situation.  Why do I discuss all this, and why are these all things about which you want to learn?

     We talk and learn about all this because we want to meet someone who absolutely blows us away.  The real reason why we spend so much time and energy working on ourselves and our inner confidence is so we can learn how to love ourselves (by understanding who we truly are and what we're truly all about).  We do this so that one day all of a sudden out of left field we will meet someone who absolutely captivates our mind.  We don't do all this work on ourselves so we can remain alone.  The whole reason we do all this is so we can meet the most amazing person we've ever met. 

     We spend such a considerable amount of time getting to know ourselves so that we can appreciate when magic happens with a most amazing person, and so we will go with it and embrace it.  This most amazing person is someone about whom we spend entire days thinking.  We are anxious for each phone conversation with them. We eagerly await every text message from them. 

     You know what the most amazing feeling is that you can experience?  It is the smile you have on your face every single time you learn something new about someone.  It is equally amazing to find someone with whom you easily stay present and on the same page.   I may be using the word "amazing" too much, but when you meet someone who just blows you away it is difficult to accurately describe in words the emotions that creates inside of you. 

     Those  emotions - that warmth you feel inside - are a combination of so many things. It's the anticipation of seeing that person again. It's waking up in the morning with a smile on your face as that person pops into your mind.  It could be remembering that certain little thing they said to you that day (or even days before that).  It might be remembering a lingering kiss you shared with them - a kiss you feel like you can still taste on your lips hours or even days after the kiss has ended.

     It doesn't matter what the specific things are that engender this feeling within you.  There is no doubt, though, that we all desire to experience this kind of feeling.   That kind of feeling is created when every moment you are getting to know someone becomes a special moment for you.  You eagerly await each phone conversation, because every new thing you learn about that person becomes one more reason why you like them and makes you like them even more. 

     As incredible as it feels to experience this depth of emotion about someone, it is perhaps an even better to wake up in the morning knowing this person is out there thinking you are equally as fascinating, and amazing.  That person also waits eagerly for each phone conversation with you.  That person also wakes up smiling as you pop into their head.  That person feels those same intense emotions about you. 

     Life is about experiencing this kind of magic.  Most of us don't spend enough time experiencing this kind of magic (and some miss experiencing it all together) because we are so afraid of experiencing it. 

Think about this.  What is the point of doing all this work on ourselves unless we are willing to share ourselves with someone else?  Sharing your thoughts, feelings and emotions with another person is truly the greatest high you can experience.  There is no greater feeling and nothing else that produces a high as intense and incredible as being truly emotionally, physically and spiritually connected with someone. 

     Life has its ups and its downs, so why not search for someone with whom you share this kind of intense emotional, physical and spiritual connection?  A connection that has you excited for every phone conversation, every kiss, every little touch - so much so that you feel you can never absorb enough of that person. 

     Imagine falling asleep every night with the last thoughts in your mind being a yearning for more and more of every part of someone.  Imagine wanting to know more about them, wanting to taste more of them, wanting to devour every word they say, and wanting to know their every thought and emotion.  This is what magic feels like, what life is truly all about, and what we all should aspire to find.