I am creating this group for anyone who has lost a loved one unexpectedly. What do I mean by this is lost a family member or close friend to violence or an accident or sudden illness. This is not meant to demean a death to old age or to a prolonged illness. Because I know about that kind of loss too, and I know those aren't easy either. However the murder of my sister by her ex-boyfriend had more of an impact on my life than the loss of any of the family member who died of old age or cancer. As tough as those losses were I knew they were coming. A sudden untimely death really changes how you look at life.