Life - added: 2011-11-25 19:02:28

I just started tools to life a couple of days ago also, but I think you were about a week ahead of me, so I wonder if you are still active in the group.  I am a little apprehensive about being here (online/honest) opening up has proven difficult for me in the past.  I am a very paranoid person.  What I read in your writing sounds like my experience in life.  Trust no one was the point I finally concluded.  Over time I have learned isolation has some advantages, but overall it is a lonely way to live. 

I am in college now.  I plan to graduate next semester after having spent the last eight years attaining two hundred college hours to include two majors, two minors.  Psychology is my first major with Literature & Language as a second major.  I hoped college would make me more secure and trusting.  I ended a five year relationship in 07 and have remained single primarily in isolation ever since that time.  I obviously do not do well in relationships.  In 1982 I got married the first time.  That lasted almost two years.  In 1985 I got married a second time, and gave birth to my two children during that seventeen year marriage. 

I read a lot!!! More than anyone I have ever met.  Reading saves me from the internal destruction of my own thoughts.  I think way too much.  I intellectualize beyond belief, but what I have learned over time, is we see our SELF in others.  Life is a process of projection.  If you do not like what you perceivably experience in him, fix it in yourself.  There is no problem in existence that exceeds one’s own beliefs.  When an individual arrives at a place in life where they do not like others it is because they do not like themselves.  When they do not trust others it is because they do not trust themselves.  When you believe everyone is out to get you it is yourself you are afraid of not anyone else. 

Everything in life is projection.  When you need to forgive the only place you need to go to forgive is to your own heart.  If you believe you do not like their behavior, fix your own behavior.  No problem exists the mind cannot resolve instantly, because no problem exists beyond the thought process in existence within the mind doing the thinking in the first place.  It is all perception.  If you do not like something perceive something you do like, hold that thought in mind then you will experience that belief.  Life is a process of projection.  To experience a more enjoyable life simply hold the perception of that more enjoyable life in mind – consistently, and that will become your experience.

The problem in life is as humans we are taught from birth to resist what we do not want.  As infants we do not want to be hungry so we cry.  We do not want to wear a wet diaper so we cry.  We want to be nurtured so we cry.  We have instinctively learned to complain about whatever it is we truly believe we want, and beyond the infancy stage it no longer has a positive effect.  There are Universal laws.  The law of resistance then comes into play.  Which simply means whatever we resist we experience more of…go figure don’t want to be cheated on just hold that thought in mind.  Think real hard, “I do NOT want a spouse that cheats on me!!!”  And surprise, surprise that is exactly what you got… a spouse that cheated on you. 

Everything in life works that way.  The only way out of the slump is to start thinking about what you would enjoy experiencing instead, stay focused.  But an individual cannot stay focused when they are not living up to what they pretend to want to experience in others.  People go right back to a focus on what is wrong with others until they fix it in themselves.  Once you fix it in yourself then the problem just stops happening in others because you stop projecting it onto others.  Do not ask what can he do for me, ask what can I do for myself, and do not think look what he has done to me, think look what I have done to myself. 

When you have hurt enough as a result of having experienced your own choices projected own to others you will fix it in yourself, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get on with life.  Nobody is out to get you but you, and if they are it is because you set it up that way.  Humans make it look like others do to them everything they perceive they experience.  The truth is no one has ever done to you anything you did not choose to experience.  The human psyche works that way.  On a subconscious level through an evolutionary process of development the psyche perceives an external experience of whatever it needs to heal from believing in the existence of that experience.  Out of all species only the human species needs to be right, because only the human species projects their beliefs onto others.         

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