I'm on day 3 of Tools To Life...hurray!  But, my first real look around the site...and to my dismay I couldn't find any groups, challenges or discussion topics about anger.  I'm sure I can't be the only one here who has trouble controlling their temper so I thought I'd look for advice and encouragement by starting this group.

I'm a pretty happy person all around, I try to enjoy each day as much as I can.  I'm generally in a good mood, always smiling and laughing....but boy oh boy can the smallest thing ever cause me to feel pissed off!!  The feeling woooshes up from my chest to the top of my head...vvvvvvpppptttt!  Instantly!  And I really don't know how to control it.

For example, today I was riding my bike to work and as I was passing through an intersection a car didn't stop at the stop sign and cut me off.  People ALWAYS drive right through this stop sign...I can see a car and predict when they aren't going to stop and I'm always right about it.  I get "vvvvvvppppt PISSED"...to the top of my head and usually end up giving them a dirty look, or pointing and yelling "Yeah...there's a STOP sign there!!!".  I'm dumbfounded as to why this makes me so angry!  It's little things like this that really get to me.  Most of the time I get angry to myself and don't act out to the person that gets me going, but other times I let them have it...and if it happens when I'm with friends or family I feel embarrassed afterwards.  But sometimes I don't...sometimes I feel that I had every right to get mad at someone because of something they did.  And I know that it's wrong, but I don't know how to control myself.  Most of these incidents occur on an almost daily basis...and it's usually because another person did something wrong, like not following the rules.  The rules of the road, the rules at the ski hill, the general rules of etiquette and consideration, etc., etc.  I have NO control over what other people do, but they make me crazy!!  Like cutting in front in a lineup, not letting me cross at the crosswalk, or if someone constantly interrupts me in conversation...  These are such small trivial things in life...so why do I get so mad??  Any insights??