Hi everyone,

I'm 55 years old and new to support groups.  I just lost my older brother this last Christmas Eve from lung cancer.  Since then I've sat back and have done some serious pondering about my future and what I'm doing in my present life to make myself happy and satisfied with the way my life is going.  Well come to find out I'm not.  But I kind of have been just living day to day, putting up with people that make me crazy and unhappy. 

I've had a lot on my plate lately (besides lossing my brother) and am started to feel overwhelmed.  For instance - 20 year old step daughter moved in last year, who's bipolar and multiple personalities but won't take meds or go to counseling.  Husband who blames himself for daughter's problems, and falls all over himself trying to please her.   Husband is addicted to computer porn and apparently his daughter has witnessed episodes of him pleasuring himself for many years she tells me last week.  So my back is against the wall to do something.  Only I don't know what to do.  I knew he had a problem but always hides what he's looking at when I walk into the room.  I've brought up his problems with porn before and He told me I was too judgemental!  I'm not sure what to do, except leave him.  Then I loose out of my home and everything we've worked hard for.  It's a no win situation.  I can't afford to live on my own and have no friends to put me up. 

Does any one have any words of wisdom for me?  I would appreciate any advice.