Well, here it goes. I'm still trying to figure out what exactly my goals are for this long term, but I guess that's kinda the point for all of this. I don't have any idea where I'm going in life, and that's starting to freak me out. Some of my big goals (and I don't know whether to tackle them simultaneously or one at a time) are to figure out what I want to to for a career. I'm studying to be a mechanical engineer, but it's so broad that it can be daunting at times. Build my self-esteem. A lot of the reason I've started pulling a way from friends is because I'm particularly critical on myself and feel like I'm more of an anchor for people than a friend. I also need to start an exercise routine. I'm not concerned about my weight(I've actually been thinning out), but I'm horribly out of shape, and my family history has all sorts of heart issues, so from a personal health perspective alone, I'm concerned with how sedentary I am. Any tips for someone who for the first time wants to actually take steps forward and not just talk about them would be great.
Sun, Jun 03 11:21 AM
Hi everyone - I too am just starting Tools to Life, without many clear goals, but want to get into the habit of getting into action. Have a very much 'desk job' in IT for a University, and really need some motivation to exercise and become more healthy. As well as starting to re-assess my career and life choices in terms of what I want to do next. If anyone knows of any active groups/challenges specific to this, it would be great to hear about them :-)
I'm British, so the terms 'boost' and 'kudos' and high-fiving... and other things like that are quite alien to our reserved nature! However 'well done' to you for starting/continuing with self-improvement.
Here's wishing you success.
Tue, Apr 03 06:10 AM
Congrats on taking steps to improve yourself and your life!!
Sounds to me as if Tools is going to be just the right place for you at this time!!
This program is all about change; provides the background for how/why as well as the tools to actually implement.
If you follow this program you will indeed be 'doing' vs 'talking' - that is the focus of T2L!!
Enjoy the program ! (and the people !)
Mon, Apr 02 05:58 AM
Congratulations; you have made a great start just by acknowledging the fact that you want to make changes for the better.
Any goal is made easier by breaking it down to a series of small easy to do steps. You could start with fitness [ and health].
Keep a fitness journal or log book.
Decide for example to walk for 15 minutes every day.
Record that in your journal. Maybe the following week you could increase that by an additional 10 minutes - record your results - and your feelings.
Review your progress. If you have kept your promises [ to yourself], you will realise that that, yes I can set a goal and succeed!
By proving to yourself that you CAN succeed - you have proof! - you can slowly take on bigger more challenging goals.
begin to eat healthier food as well - you sy you have thinned out - hopefully as a result of a better diet!
If becoming an engineer is what you want, then don't worry about how broad or dauning it might be at present, focus on the DAILY things you can do to get there.
By adding up those daily/weekly successes you will see that the goal becomes less daunting.
One day at a time.
If you don't do your daily tasks - write down why not. There might be a pattern or insight that could be revealed.
Lasting change takes time. It took you quite a while to get where you are now and so reversing that will require patience and perseverance.
Mon, Apr 02 03:25 AM
Welcome to the group, easo91! I am not the best example of following through on steps that I have tried to take to better myself, but I have recently returned here to Tools, and plan to be a success this time!
There are so many members here that have been in situations such as yours, like making career choices, and working on self-esteem issues that you are in good company! By working the program here, and making contacts with like-minded people, I feel you will be a success!
I am starting to work out to become more physically fit as well, so I am very happy to discuss exercise, and ways to stay motivated - as I'm in that same situation!
I hope you will always find good conversation, helpful tips, and some great people here to help you through the program! Please keep chatting, and we can go through this together, ok?