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created by: otter He has been gone since Friday. I have received two very short emails – everything is ok. I will try to call tomorrow. Love you. No calls
That’s it. I have sent a few that I was hopeful he would respond too. I let him know that I would love to talk to him and wished he would call. Nothing. I am tempted to call the hotel and try to catch him, but what if he isn’t there and I get more upset? I am trying to not be needy, but I just want to be important enough to him to take the time to call. I don’t know if this is unreasonable, or normal. I have tried really hard to focus on good things today and think about my power, my lies, my complaints and what I should being doing to better myself. But it isn’t working. I have been sobby today and I just miss him.
How do you know when what you’re feeling is normal and balanced or when you are being neurotic? He comes home late Saturday evening and I am afraid that I might go further down the spiral. I have already started to do the nervous vomiting.
He is with one of his buddies on a dive trip. One of our hobbies. At a place we talked of going to together, but have never been. I am glad he gets to go, I just freaking miss him. I get all these pictures in my head of what he is doing, having a great time and not missing me at all. Checking out chicks and glad to be away.
I just want to crawl into bed and not come out.
Isnt it interesting the way things happen and what you become as a result of relationships and people in your life. When I came to tools I was in a new relationship, and ended up moving to another part of the country for work, it was soooooo hard to leave my partner but I knew that I would regret not doing it.
Up until about 4 months ago I think I had the same problem as you. I would get up tight that he didn't answer, or when he did it was short, that he was having fun and I wasn't.....all that stuff!! Breakthrough for me was actually realising that whilst I loved my partner, I had channeled so much of my happiness and relationship through him, that when he wasn't around I lost it. Now Im not saying that you are at the same extreme I was but like Alicia above is saying "Let it go".
Trust goes a long way in easing those fears, and you know what....he loves you and thats all that matters. One tip that I can give you which helped me get over this bump was, remembering to always be grateful for your partner. When you change your thinking to be like that....honestly your whole view of your relationship will change.
Power to you my friend! :)
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I am glad you heard from him. That shows he is thinking of you. Keep you mind on the posiitive. The days are passing until he will back home with you. 
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Baby, you have to get a grip. He loves you. He's diving. He's with guys. That's what he says, that's what you have to trust and believe. Who cares if there's other divers there that happen to be beautiful women. Men don't go golfing together to see girls in short skirts. Sports are sports, and when men gather together to do that, it doesn't matter if there are nice views of the opposite sex. They laugh, make jokes, entice each other. Harmless. Please relax sweetheart. when I was a young mom, I felt so abandoned when my husband traveled so much, I actually showed up in his hotel, with my babies!! It wasn't that cool. There was nothing to worry about. It all worked out fine, but I sort of felt stupid.
Here's an observation from a "mom" age woman, who happens to deal with people all day all ages all problems all backgrounds...... before cell phones were prevelant, what do you think people did? Stop obsessing on the communication thing. It's ok for anyone, all of us, to be unplugged, incomunicado at a time that's announced and expected. People don't have to be so connected every minute, and, actually, it hampers concentration and creativity.
Breathe. Enjoy the morning and your beautiful baby(ies). Today matters. Your day today will affect your child(ren) and your husband will still come home soon. He loves you, he's there.
As far as the phone, email, text thing goes.... let it go. Let it go. His love is not measured by these things.
Be well. Tomorrow and the next 5-6 days are important times for you and your kids lives. Live them!
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