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Started On: 01/09/10
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Last Activity: 2010-01-17 16:43:16
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Tough go!!

Hey all, I'm brand new to this, so don't know if I'm in the write place, but just writing about this is good for me..   Here we go, the reason I choice to try tools to life, is because I've been dealing with a number of things, more the drinking road. I've recently had enough of the drinking affecting my life, family and relationships. I've always been known as the fun/life of the party since high school (11years ago I graduated). so pretty much for the last 11years, all my friends have always known me to drink and to make them laugh and be taken advantage of. I never wanted to be that guy, but I didn't know how to NOT be that guy.  I'm recently trying to  take control of my life and stopped drinking, it seems those same friends arn't there for me anymore. I never realized how hard is to meet new people. Those same friends I've known for 20plus years and now I'm alone in a battle with myself.  I know the future is going to bright once I beat this battle, but I'm looking for any suggestions on how to meet new people and or establsih new relationships/friends??  or if someone's been down this road what they have done??   I thought my friends for 20years would of supported me, but I'm finding out they don't...          
 
 

 

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allday_everyday

  allday_everyday

2010-01-12 19:23:22

reply - added: 2010-01-12 19:23:22

I know where you're coming from... I got sick with getting drunk all the time and tried to slow down, but it's like the people around you don't get it.  Or like they think you're antisocial and you don't like them anymore.  I don't have the money to blow on drinks at the club, night after night.  

 

But the fact that friends of 20 years would give you the cold shoulder, that blows me away when I picture my friends doing that to me.

 

I'm no expert at making friends, but if I wanted to move on from alcohol and start taking better care of myself, I'd probably be looking at something like joining a martial arts gym, or something along those lines - because those people care about their health too.  It sounds cheesy, but there's so many clubs and organizations out there, for every sport you can think of, you could meet many different people thru that -if you were a fun guy to hang out with before, I'd say you still are, and people will see that too.

 

  

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