“People spend too much time finding other people to blame, too much energy finding excuses for not being what they are capable of being, and not enough energy putting themselves on the line, growing out of the past, and getting on with their lives.”
- J. Michael Straczynski
Excuses? I’ve got a million of ‘em.
This week it’s all about your excuses. And that’s something I think we can all agree we’re very good at when the right opportunity presents itself. Am I right?
So what can we do to begin deprogramming ourselves from acting as excuse makers?
Think back to when you were in school… College, High School, Middle School, Kindergarten, it doesn’t matter.
Most of us have messed around and missed handing in an assignment at one point in our lives. Now I want you to think, what were your excuses?
Reflect on that for a minute, then let your mind move forward from that point on to some of the more recent excuses you’ve given in your life. It’s okay to have a chuckle, this is supposed to be fun.
The great thing about reflection is best summed up by the old adage, “Hindsight is 20/20.”
And I bet while thinking back with your “perfect vision,” some of the things you’ve said to “excuse yourself” offered up at least one or two knee-slappers … am I right?
Share your silly excuses, and let’s all have a laugh! We have to laugh off the excuses and I-was-going-to-but’s so that we can get serious and start taking action to create the changes we want in our lives.
So, let’s have ‘em! *Drumroll Please*
I think excuses is my middle name. I make excuses even to not wash the dishes in the evening. I am Too tired, I hurt too much, I have other things I need to do, or want to do. It goes on and on. My excuses and procratination are a major road block for me. I know this, and yet continue to make them?????
I have piles of personal paperwork to deal with, financial things to organize and on and on. My yard needs help! Why can't I get up and do things that I know need to be taken care of at the time they need to be taken care of?? I do this at home and at work and it really makes things nuts. Eventually, I get so overwhelmed by all the "things" I have made ecuses for not doing, that then I feel so buried that I make the excuse that there is too much to do, so I am too overwhelmed to do any of it!!!
How does any of this make sense. :)
Excuses: Just a little won't hurt. A little procrastination, a little bite, a little clutter, a little laying around, a little more, a little her a little there. It all adds up to wasted time, calories, days and years. Silly but serious business.
I have the bad habit of screening all phone calls or simply turning off the cell phone for days. I can't even remember how many times I've said I left my cellphone in the car, at the office, at the restaurant, etc. My friends and family must think I have Alzheimer's
"It's the medicine I'm on."
Although it is true that I have difficulty sometimes communicating b/c of meds for pain management, I find myself saying, "Please forgive me, it's the medicine I'm on."
Today in the Dr.'s office, my GP DR> Dodd asked, "So what medicines are you taking to help with your sinus problem?"
Instead of saying Mucinex, I quickly said Metamucil!
His eyebrows lifted upward, stopped writing what I was reporting, and asked slowly, "Are you sure?"
"Yes, I'm su....Oh, wait a minute. I ment Mucinex."
"Yeh, if you've been taking the other stuff a whole lot, you'd be having a whole different problem," with a grin and chuckle."
"I know, I was decribing the wrong end there Doc!"
We had a good laugh. It took us a couple of minutes to settle down and get back to why I came there to see him, It was so fun to laugh at myself instead of getting embarrassed.
Thanks for the giggles alex nikki. This is helping to recognize my excuses!
It's odd - my biggest excuse is not having enough energy - and that I don't get help from others ~ yet this makes me think of how much energy I use in procrastination... seems I always get the most done when I just say - oh the heck with it - I'll do it myself!
This is really dumb but I have told people that I had bad cramps to get out of being social. Ugh! And then there are times when I really did have bad cramps and I don't think they believed me. Ha, ha...
Take responsibility for what you choose to do and not to do. Don't beat yourself up over not getting something done, but do understand the implications. I'm so sick and tired of having a cloud of "should have / could have" hanging over my head, that I choose not to reflect on things that way. It's not worth the negative point of view. Rather, I know that getting things done carves more space in my time and mind for other things, so I'm choosing to be proactive and much happier for it. And when I do slip up, I forgive myself and make a point of tackling matters rather than letting things slide.
Just do it!
I may screw up but as long as I am honest w/myself and others , take ownership, learn from it, and forgive, I gain respect for being human. It is never too late to get back on track. An important lesson I am working on with my children. I know it starts with me leading by example.
My worst excuse for coming in late to work was I told my supervisisor my dog slept under the bed and pulled out the cord from my alarm clock....and i used it more than once.