PFR Notes January 25. 2009
When there is a crime, there is a culprit. In the case of our lives, there is a crime being committed everyday, all day long. We are getting robbed of our peace of mind. If we want to stop the robberies, we have to find out who done it. The who, is a thought we are having that sets into motion feelings and behaviors that lead us down a path of not being our best, or even worse, self destruction.
We call these thoughts, triggers. These are triggers that create an emotional and behavioral response. These responses are the places that are creating results we do not want in our life. The triggers are the automatic thoughts we have. Often we think that a situation is responsible, however the same situation can produce in us different thoughts, depending on what is going on within ourselves.
What is important is to discover if there is a pattern, the situation equals automatic thought which produces emotional and behavioral responses. Then we look at the automatic thought and try and find if we can question it and change it, so we can produce a new and desired emotional and behavioral responses.
The situation is an interview, automatic thought is they will not like me, emotional response is anxiety, behavioral response is not going, or unable to focus and interview well.
Questions: How do I know they will not like me? Is it possible that they will like me? I have been liked before. If they don’t like me what does that mean? I still can get another job, I still can learn from the experience. I can always do better as a result.
When we challenge the automatic thought, we can all of a sudden see a new path which then can produce a new emotional and behavioral response of going to the interview, trying our best and being able to focus.
Learning how to find triggers and then turn them around is a learned skill. Cognitive therapists work with clients to learn the fundamentals of how these thoughts lead our behavior and how to change them. We will continue in Tools to offer solutions to how you are thinking and how to create thought patterns that will help you create the life you want as we develop detailed programs on tracking and changing thoughts.
To assist, the affirmations can be used when you become aware of negative self limiting automatic thoughts to help you take hold and change the direction of your thinking. The affirmations also imprint a new pattern of thinking to lead your automatic thoughts in the direction we desire.Click here to add a comment.