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Member Since: 06/17/07
Last Login: 03/10/12
Viewed: 12159
Program in:
Program Progress: Day 92
Beatriz's Challenges:
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Beatriz's Participating:
| PFR Challenge |
| Having Fun Fine Tuning and Balancing our lives |
| Lets Bash that perverse nasty little inner Voice |
| 90 daily consecutive entries in "My Blog" |
Personal Interests:
Music:
Classical (Baroque, in particular but not only), jazz (Dave Brubeck), Toru Takemitsu, Kitaro, Pink Floyd, Emerson Lake & Palmer, Beatles, Joan Manuel Serrat, Pablo Milanes, Mercedes Sosa and many many more.
Books:
Tao Te King, Bagavad Gita, Stories of the Dervish by Idries Shah, The Conference of the Birds by Attar, Nietzsche, Novalis, Freud, Fritz Perls, and many more.
Favorite Places:
Tromso (Norway), The Highlands in Scotland, Edinburgh, Conway in Wales, Bath in England, Paris, Burgos, St. Domingo de Silos, Koln and Bonn (Germany), Prague, Bratislava, Maastricht, Cracow, Vienna, Malinalco (Mexico)
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Hobbies:
Activities:
Sports:
Hiking, I used to go caving in Mexico(going into caves and underground rivers). In England I only cycle and walk, do aerobics and yoga.
Movies:
Casablanca, all Kurosawa, Bunuel, some of Polanski (Macbeth, The Pianist), some of Spielberg (Schindler's List), Cinema Paradiso, The March of the Penguins, The Bear...
TV:
Heroes:
I Want To Meet:
Beatriz's Life List:
| I want to be who I really am. No fakes, no lies, no fears. |
| I want to get the PhD degree this year. |
comments
My heart goes out to you
in your time of loss. In the end it takes time, so be kind to yourself. I wanted to share with you a letter I wrote to a friend about loss that I posted a share here on Tools.
Here is the link:
http://toolstolife.com/users/coachsteele/share/view/56/
I hope you find some comfort and use from these thoughts in this letter.
Sending you support and love in this time,
Devlyn
Wow...great letter from coach and a poem for you!
My favourite poem on death...I hope it brings you comfort.
I Am Not There Do not stand at my grave and weep, I am not there, I do not sleepI am a thousand winds that blow. I am the diamond glints on snowI'm sunlight on sweet ripened grain, I am the gentle autumn rain When you awaken in the morning hush, I am the swift uplifting rushOf quiet birds in circled flight. I am soft stars that shine at night.Do not stand at my grave and cry, I am not there, I did not die.They are always with you
Hi Beatriz,
You are in the experience. It's great that you are opening yourself to others, because one of the worse things to do is to shut down. Our loved ones NEVER leave us. That is the biggest myth out there. You will hear your loved one when you have a tough choice to make, when you need advice, when you feel the world is against you, the loved one will be right there reminding you of better times. Your loved one will come in dreams and memories. As far as doing better, you did do your best at the time. I have lost a few loved ones at an early age and the biggest lesson I learned was how important it is to share my love with others. I no longer hold back my love, because in the end it hurts me far more than it could ever hurt them.
We never really die
In order to make your bereavement a little easier to bear, I would like for you to understand that we are energy, spirits, in a physical body. The passing on is more like exiting your vehicle that doesn't work anymore. We are all connected and if you should sit very quietly by yourself from time to time while thinking of a past joyful experience with your love one, I'm sure you would be able to feel their energy. Always remember that the spiritual world gets to enjoy all the experiences we have in our physical world, so in other words we are living for them. And I do believe that once we pass on we are disconnected from our human form and no longer carry all the emotions that we have in physical form. So start living again, live for your love one, be happy. When you are truly happy only then they are also.
This storm, too, shall pass
I am so sorry to read about the loss. My heart goes out to you. It is a difficult time for for you. I just want to encourage you to not be scared to take the time to feel your emotions. Every storm passes. No matter how small or serious it is, it passes. This too, will pass. All the evedience of it can be cleaned up and rebuilt. In tools, we learn to let go of past regrets and to create something new. Observe your feelings, but don't hang out with the negative ones. Just see them for what they are and let it go. We used to write things we were letting go of on helium baloons. We would stand there and think about it and how it has kept us back. Then, when we were ready to forgive others who had hurt us or to forgive ourselves for hurt we have caused, we would let go of the baloon. It is a freeing experience to watch it rise into the atmosphere dancing in the wind. You see, it gets further away from us and closer to God. It is a wonderful visiual aid to help us remember that He is there and cares about our pain. And that we can't handle grief, sadness, regrets, or pain alone. You are a beuatiful person with a beuatiful heart that has a community of support. Again, my heart goes out to you and I pray that you will find some peace and that you will be reminded that you are not alone.
Much love,
Veronica