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Member Since: 10/29/07
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Areas In My Life I Want To Work On
- - Weight
- - Career
- - Relationship
- - Getting in shape
- - Finances
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- - Alcohol
- - Eating
- - Temper
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- - Goal setting
- - Visualization
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- - Management
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- - Anxiety
- - Depression
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YOUR HEALTHY RECOVERY is very important. Have you beendoing TOOLS ? Breathing and doing your affermations..........MY ATTITUDE IS MY DECISION!!!!! Do some reading.......this is your time! Time to relax and let the body heal.....start journaling, maybe you can help others in the future that are going through this.
so.............here I am sending you a great amount of support and hopefully some comfort.
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hey there, I hope the shoulder is feeling a little bit better now.
Sometimes in life we need to take a rest, a step back and to allow our bodies to recover.
It sounds like you are naturally very active, so it must be even more frustrating - but by giving yourself a chance to recover it will help you in the long term.
I had a simular kind of experience when I was 16 or so and I wanted to go back to work/college straight away - BUT a nurse gave me some quite good advice - we are in a marathon not a sprint - meaning don't ruin the long term for the short term gain.
Oliver
says: I too had surgery a couple of months ago. I was in hospital for 53 days (died on the table, etc.) and had nothing left physically when I got home. The house was filthy, my husband had lost his job, had borrowed money. Everything seemed to be going wrong. I raged a couple of times in frustration, but stayed in bed for two months (unless I was being driven to doctors' appointments). I needed that time to recover, emotionally and physically. And that's exactly what you have to do. Don't try to do things (especially sports) too fast. Really, you'll ruin everything - and you waited so long for this surgery. Accept the fact that you are ill at the moment but know that your resolve, your strength and stamina will return. It's just a 'bump in the road'. Take time for yourself right now ...
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Thank you so much for you response!!
Don't you just hate when you lose control? I sure do.
And the husband, I swear, if anything happened to him, and it has in the past I would be there, just as I am at work, to make sure every need gets met, bill gets paid, motion gets filed...
Guess what? No flowers, not even a get well card from the attys I take care of (babysit), or from my husband.
This has been a real wake-up call for me. I know I try to define myself as self-sufficient and strong, maybe I've portrayed myself as a caregiver, not a taker. There must be some message I'm giving others that tells them to stay away should I feel weak.
Must be my fault.
Evidently I've really done well at establishing boundaries, maybe too well.
I hope that Tools will help me see where I''m going wrong.