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Week going so far... . by Captain_K
This week so far hasn't been the greatest but I am trying my best to make it not as bad.
The week started with me having Pink Eye, from either my niece or nephew, not from Scott Bayo as some of you thought ( wonder how many people get that reference!) AsI was awaiting to see my doctor, I got a cold as well. I made a joke to some people at work, what's next I wake up in a bathtub of ice and missing a kidney!
As I have been stuck in my house since Monday, I have cleaned the rooms that I have on my list. I made a list about 2 weeks ago, each day I tackle one room, and along with the law of accumulation my apt is clean as ever. I save the harder rooms for the weekends, when I have more time..
Today's lesson was on stop procrastinating, which I know I do alot of. As coach was mentioning wasting more energy telling myself I do it later, I just had to laugh, as I do that almost all the time when it comes to washing my dishes. That is one chore I dislike doing, adn I don't currently have a dishwasher. But, as I was home today working awaiting something to finish, I went and did the dishes. I also hand wrote a letter to my dad, I gotta get him onto e-mail!
I also realized that when I met someone I am intrested in and we start to date, the things I did today.. I make sure get done all the time. Because I never know when they are going to want to just hang out at the house.. Plus, it is also nicer to come home to a place that looks nice, a little pride in myself. And also the rest of the day I was looking for things to do, that I would normally put off, sadly I think I am out of them at the moment!
Hopefully, I be back at the office tommorow, I was told not to come back until I was fully healthy... And I be back at school.
OOO the other thing the other day was to list what I want in a mate, that was hard for me, I pay to much attention to what is on the outside than what is in the inside. I did this with my last serious GF, and I am trying to kick that habit. A friend who is several years older and divorced mentioned that you need to find someone that you can hang out with as your friend and you enjoy the same things.. Sex and passion will fad over time.. It makes allot of sense, I'm trying to think that way. One of the things I told myself is the new women at school if she doesn't meet my requirements that I set for myself, I would only have her as a friend, and just that. One of those is that they are 26 or older.. I have been dating 21-24 year olds.. and Im 32, not allot in common IMO, just setting myself up for failure.
Well Thank you for taking the time to read this... I will be stating that more often, you guys and gals fa-king rock.. RED DRAGONS!
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awesome
"I like to singa, about the moona and the joona and the springa..." Hope you get better soon Dude and awesome job on blogging and using this program to its fullest!!
Damn that Scott Bayo
Glad he did not get to you(ding). Fully understand the dating thing, been doing the same judge the outside first thing since well I dunno 15yrs old. Think I'm over that now. Best of luck and get well soon.
PLEASE TALK TO MY ROOMMATE...
Keeping your house clean is CRUCIAL if you're having dates come over and HE DOESN'T LISTEN TO ME. I've told him "what if you have a girl come over?" but he's stubborn (and a bit of a hoarder).
But I hear you about dating. I was 35 and I dated at 28 y.o. Her maturity level just wasn't there (I'm not knocking MATURE WOMEN, just GIRLS).
A fellow Tooler on this site gave me this little tidbit: write down all the traits you "want" in a lover and the ones you would "like to have". Keep it in your wallet and pull it out daily. If a person doesn't meet those requirements, move on.
I've started dating again and I've found a lady who meets a lot of those "want" requirements, but we'll see if she meets the others (and if she'll reciprocate the interest).
Good luck, brotha!
Nice post
I have had a "list of requirements" (what I want and need in a man) that I carry around with me in my wallet and one is on my fridge. I've had it for over a year. So far, nobody has measured up. Maybe I should post it in one of my blogs someday. I don't think I am asking for too much, but maybe... I have really high expectations. Most of the things on that list are qualities, interests and lifestyle. I do have on there that I must be physically attracted to him and I want someone who stays active and in shape. I stopped myself from describing specific things like must have 6 pack abs or full lips, etc. Obviously, for there to be sexual chemistry and for a relationship to be fully functional, there must be attraction, however, if you base everything on the physical looks, you may completely overlook their underlying qualities and end up really sorry. I wouldn't limit yourself to age either. I was very mature as a young woman and able to handle a drug addict husband and manage our family and life from 18 to 26. I can only imagine how it could have been if I had married a fully functional person. I believe at that young age, I was ready for that level of commitment, I just got with the wrong person. Although, I agree, that most girls aren't like I was and are not mature enough at that age, so it is wise to look for someone who more closely matches your life experience.