rnblogger:

Not as deep and philosophical

I want to say something deep and clever and philosophical because this post deserves such a comment.  Yet I am tired, so I will just let you know I'm with you on this one.  I am an RN.  I see stuff too.  Some of my greatest lessons come through my interactions with patients and colleagues.

MistyW:

A matter of perspective

Once I worked for a woman who became very stressed over needing to replace a nanny. She worried and her face broke out and she obsessed about it for a month!  She complained several times a day every day.  She was very wealthy and seemed to me to have a great life.  I remember thinking, "Wow, I wish I had problems like that."

I met this other woman who was in a wheelchair.  Her job?  Motivational speaker!  She also has a nice life and such a positive attitude!  She had loving friends and more than enough in her life financially.  She told us that she had to learn a positive attitude because, as a quad, she had learned early that if she allowed herself a flood of pitying tears, she was not able to blow her own nose.   I thought, "Wow, I am glad that I don't have that problem!  I could never handle it with such grace. "

We have a local guy here who won powerball a few years back (maybe 6 years ago?).  He was doing okay before powerball, but since winning a fortune he has made horrible decisions.  He took the one time payoff of about 30 million. His whole family got lost in a haze of drugs and alcohol.  His daughter was murdered, his "friends" stole from him, he lost all vision and purpose in life.  He is currently in prison for 4 time DUI and his wife is in jail for nonpayment of childsupport from a prior marriage.  They are broke.

This course is helping me refine what I had already been learning!  Our happiness is our decision.  Frankly, I think I am still immature enough that I will wallow in  moments of self pity when I first get hit with something that I perceive as negative.  For me, it is things that threaten my sercurity.  I admit it, I would probably have whined about a nanny.  I have a client who suffers from OCD and for him, it is arranging silverware!  Imagine being tore up because of cluttered cutlery!  I guess I say all this because your post struck a chord with me.  I tend to compare my innards to other peoples outtards.  Feeling like I am not good enough because I am not super woman and I don't have this or don't think I could handle that.  But really, I guess, all I have to deal with is what I have to deal with and it really is my attitude and the tools I use that will make the difference! Wow, thanks for the opportunity to help me clarify some thoughts! 

Sending you a hug

oldangelsue:

No right or wrong...just the way it is

Profound blog today...thanks.  Everything is a matter of perspective and how we look at what is.....half full or half empty?

Attitude is everything.  Counting our blessings every day is one of the best ways I know to replace that "why me" attitude.  The answer to "Why Me"? is "Why Not"?

I read a book once called, "Strong At The Broken Places" and the man said that it doesn't matter what life hands to you but it does matter what you do about it.