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Birth Date: Sun, Aug 30 1959

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Schools: University of British Columbia

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I saw my reflection

 

 

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Wed, Oct 25 12:25 PM

I saw my reflection

 

Today I saw a reflection of myself in my sister. She is under much stress and has become paralized by it, and as we were chatting and I was listening to her responses to the difficulties that she is facing - and I saw me.

I saw me as I was two weeks ago, and it broke my heart to see my sister in such termoil. And I wanted to reach out and fix things for her, and ease her pain - but I know that I can not do that, because I know that she has to do it for herself.

And I want her to feel hopeful, and happy, and calm, as I do, and I want her to understand that a change in attitude towards our life situation makes such a huge difference in the experience - and I tried to tell her, but I know that, again, this is something she has to learn herself.

So, I gave her the link to Tools, and I hope she will follow.

 

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CoachSteele CoachSteele: 2006-10-26 13:31:38

says:

You gave her much more than a link to Tools, you gave her your love and your positive energy wishing her well!  You're a beautiful person!

Cheers To You! 

Suzanne Suzanne: 2006-10-28 19:59:22

says: Contessa - I saw MY reflection in your reflection! I too have a sibling in a certain amount of turmoil at present. You see over the past 3 years, my brother and I have lost our mother and our brother and I believe he is probably feeling lost and abandoned due to these bereavements. As we live a long way from one another we only meet infrequently at family gatherings when there's little opportunity to get past the small talk ... But today I sent him the link to Tools and hope SO much that he'll embrace it as I feel it will be the best substitute for an embrace from me in helping him as it's helping me ...

Myra Carlson Myra Carlson: 2006-10-31 09:11:21

says: Contessa- my heart jumped into my throught when I started reading your post. My little sister who is 12 years younger than I has just moved by me. Well she has her own apartment now. She has a boyfriend and two young children.She just turned 20 and doesnt really know much about providing for her family. It is hard for me to let her make her own mistakes because there are so many. I try to just talk with her but doesnt seem to do much good. She wants to do things her way and she doesnt see that it is not working all that great for her. The more I help her the more she thinks I should just do. How do help her without doing everything for her?

Myra Carlson Myra Carlson: 2006-10-31 09:11:23

says: Contessa- my heart jumped into my throught when I started reading your post. My little sister who is 12 years younger than I has just moved by me. Well she has her own apartment now. She has a boyfriend and two young children.She just turned 20 and doesnt really know much about providing for her family. It is hard for me to let her make her own mistakes because there are so many. I try to just talk with her but doesnt seem to do much good. She wants to do things her way and she doesnt see that it is not working all that great for her. The more I help her the more she thinks I should just do. How do help her without doing everything for her?