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Member Since: 06/07/08
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Member Since: 06/07/08
Last Login: 03/21/12
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Program Progress: Day 7
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Music:
Books:
Agatha Christie (the real one, not the ghost writer), Toni Morrison, Eric Jerome Dickey, Patricia Cromwell, Sidney Sheldon, mysteries, forensic pathology
Favorite Places:
I Want To See:
Canary Islands, Denmark, Iceland, Africa (all over), Galapagos Islands, but most importantly, my daughter be successful in whatever she attempts,
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Movies:
The Usual Suspects, 2 Can Play That Game, Moneyball, transformers, Butterfly on a Wheel, Kung Fu (skill not flying witches), August Rush, The Count of Monte Cristo
TV:
Cold Case Files (A&E), American Justice, The Mentalist, The Misfits, Hell's Kitchen, Nikita, Desperate Housewives, Grey's Anatomy.
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Tools Goal List:
Areas In My Life I Want To Work On
- - Weight
- - Career
- - Relationship
- - Finances
- - Education
I Want To Quit Or Control
Skills I Am Interested In
- - Goal setting
- - Public speaking
- - Focus
- - Management
- - Sales
- - Motivation
I Suffer From
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Sorry, private info
Divalish's Life List:
| Open a creative arts centre for under-privileged kids with access to quality lessons |
| Retire financially independent at age 45 |
| Reach my goal size (8 - 10) |
| Have a great relationship with a special person who gets me and accepts my quirks, loves/appreciates my finer points without taking advantage of either |
| Write an amazing collection of songs |
| Visit every continent (except the Arctic and Antarctica) |
| Win a Juno Award. |
| Walk a portion of the Great Wall of China |
| Create a number of successful businesses. |
| Make successful Real Estate Investments. |
| Create a non-profit international microlending charity/profiteer... |
| Obtain BComm in MIS. |
| Attain a consistent level of "Happy". |
| Become touring backup singer. |
| Own a house. |
| Bring my mother to see where Jesus walked. |
| Repay my mother. |
comments
been there...
Love the way you put this. I hope you told him cheerfully to just piss off.
Time for some "aggressive self-care". Treat yourself nice day, in other words. I usually start with some cleansing ritual, like writing all the things I hate about my ex on a piece of paper and then burning it while thinking evil thoughts (kidding) and then hasten myself into a purifying bath with bubbles and wine. Or a heavy sweaty workout, preferably with a willing and impressed partner (not ex). Then write all the ways your life is better now, even if you do still like the guy, on a different piece of paper and read it to yourself three times slowly. Some dark chocolate can help here, too. And jazz or blues. Gospel works, too, especially if it's someone like Mahalia Jackson and you can belt it out along with her...
Good luck. Sorry for your bad day. Remember, it was HIS loss.
nice people
Nice people don't finish last. We just don't see the immediate results of our work. While nice people are preparing for their future and being careful not to burn bridges, the other type of people are reaping immediate satisfaction. The only problem is that in ten years, twenty years down the road, they have nothing but a bunch of burnt bridges surrounding the lonely island they are on. While the nice people on the other hand stand at the other end of the burnt bridges and laugh and point. no thats not right. the nice poeple continued the course and will get exactly what they put in. Being a nice person may not pay off right now, it will be worth the wait in the future. hope that makes sense.
You passed, you get a star!
I don't know how many times I have read a 2nd or 3rd day post where someone ended up with a "crap-tastic" event occuring to bring them down. I know my own second day was awful, and then to top it off I wrote a big post about it to clear my head and the post vanished... poof! It must be the universe testing us to see how ready & willing we are to go through with this life altering change. Its just like devlyn says "turn problems into opportunities" and then the universe says "here's your problem, get to it" :) Thank god we've just learned how to turn problems into opportunities huh? You're doing awesome and tomorrows another day!
BTW... I LOVE how you tagged this...omg... "leftover meatloaf"... LOL, crack me up!
You deserve the best
I'll tell you what I think, after all this years he has come to the conclusion that you are absolutely fantastic and probaly took you for granted...This is great for him! On the other han, you already know how fantastic you are and do not need to be with someone that took so long to realise! lol!
You deserve the best and only the best, and I think when something makes us feel so sad, it cant be that good for us, we should really feel elated...dont you think?
Big cuddles to you
All of the above
Although it may seem like it sometimes, in the long run nice people rarely finish last. You're okay. As you've surmised, he's the jerk for waiting until now to bring it up. Oh you may be meatloaf, but it doesn't sound like you're leftovers... more likely one of those delectable treats you find at the corner deli.
Judging by your Fatal Attraction analogy, it sounds like you're already on your way toward Dabble's suggestions. Do the things you need to to purge this fool, then do some special things that bring you pleasure. Hey, you deserve it.