CoachSteele:

I love your blog

As a coach I struggle with the same issue.  Do I hold people accountable to push them through, or do I recognize that we are all different and you cannot force change at one pace?  The answer as you state is obvious, everyone is different so you need to recognize that.  The struggle is exactly what you mention, will those who really need the discipline lose their momentum?

The difficulty is that when I work with my clients one on one, I am participating in their struggles and can pace things accordingly.  How do you get an experience that I do not have the direct contact to recognize the individual need?

The answer that came to me, was to push people to get the discipline regardless at the start, and once the discipline has routed, to then trust the individual to recognize their pace. This was after years of test groups and having people start to feel guilty and having the program take a reverse effect of self judging by not keeping up with the pace.  Tools did not just pop up, it went through ten years of testing.

In the end, this struggle you are encountering and overcoming is really the battle of balance and action we face in every part of our life.  Do we give our-self permission to be human without taking that permission to self destructive levels?  If I eat that piece of cake, will I eat another and then another?

Balance and action.  Even though this has been a struggle and an internal battle, by addressing this issue your victory will be a lot bigger than your pace in Tools.  Your victory will be with how you address your life and allow yourself to love yourself and be you, but still hold yourself accountable to action.

I think this is a very important blog, and I hope many read it.

Thank you for sharing.

Nameste,

Devlyn