This is really important to me so I am going to post this in myBLOG, mySHARE and myACHIEVEMENTS. Sorry for the repetition.
I had an interesting realization happen this morning. While attempting to make my first “TOOLS--- TO DO list”, I thought this would be a snap, since I have ALWAYS had a TO DO list. When making my TOOLS ---TO DO list… I wanted to keep in mind ---“The real reason most major goals are not achieved is that we spend our time doing 2nd things first.”
Unfortunately…I have a laundry list of second things. I would NEVER get to the most important ones, because my daily “maintenance” things were more like a laundry list of things “TO DO for others” Why am I so shocked that I never got to mine and investing in me?? NO MORE LIES and NO MORE EXCUSES!!
I realized that an old subject, I thought was long gone was now rearing its head again. The subject of CO- Dependency. For those of you unfamiliar, People are my drug of choice. I use people to alter my perception of my life. I use people like some people use drugs…to not have to focus on my own life and my own issues. It really sucks because, unfortunately I cant give “people” up like someone might give up cigarettes or other stuff… but perhaps now that I am thinking about this… people that have problems with food are maybe having some of the same issues--- since they can’t give up food either!. SAME LESSON… DIFFERENT FORM.!!!!
Although, I have come a long way with Co-dependency over the past 15 years that I have been dealing with this subject, my life has healed dramatically in this area and is no longer “crazy, nor unmanageable” Because of this, I thought I was good to go.
Even though I have healthier values with people now and healthier realationships… I realize I still have work to be done, especially when I was looking at my TO DO list. My underlying values were still coming out… since these were actions and they were telling a different story of what I was saying and thought I believed.
Making my TO DO list was really an eye-opener. For the first time EVER…I realized that everything on my to do list …that has taken priority over MY education, owning MY business and planning MY financial future have been distractions of things that needed to be done for “others”. These things that I thought were necessary, and part of daily maintenance of my life really should be on THEIR TO DO LISTS!!!---now how crazy have I been acting??!!!
For someone as smart as myself, I am again humbled. The reason MY life hasn’t moved forward is simply because I haven’t been focusing on MY life. LOL.
SIMPLE hunh??!! Yet tragically appropriate. It has always been there… ( a problem I have found myself dealing with over and over…you’d think I would have gotten it by now!) Isn’t God amazing?
Well … time to clean up my own mess… and not be distracted by everyone elses!
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wow
looks like you had a tremendous realization and I am happy for you. Keep it up and be in charge of your own self............
I am proud of you!
Good for you
It's really amazing when something becomes so clear isn't it. Write it down where you will see it when you feel like you are slipping into old patterns.
Good luck.
wow
Sometimes I feel like you doing the things for others, but other times i feel like very selfish, what a contradiction! May be I am trying to balance it going from one edge to anoher... You make me think about it. Thak you for sharing
Thank you
Thank you for sharing. As I read your blog, I realized I could have written it myself. My to do list is like yours, I do the things for others first before myself and I have justified it as a mother, I need to do those things first to keep the house running. Now I see it as my way of avoiding looking after me. Thank you again.