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Mon, Jul 07 11:28 PM

Confused

 

So I guess I'm feeling confused.  After finally going out on my first "date" I thought we had both had a nice time.  Mind you the world didn't rock, but we seemed to have a lot in common and as he left he gave me a hug and said we'd talk on email.

 

So that was Saturday and I haven't heard from him.  He had been in the habit of responding the same day I wrote, and I had sent him an email on Sunday saying I had had a nice time and hoped he had too, etc...

 

I know it has only been a few days, and I often don't get to me email on the weekend, but that hasn't been how he has been in the past.

 

I guess I'm just a bit disappointed.  While I was ok with the possiblilty that he might not find me attractive or feel a connection, I did feel that he would at least let me know if he didn't, but after spending two hours chatting away, I wonder if I just don't read signals well anymore.

 

I guess I'll just play out the hand and see what happens, but I truly hate games, so I hope this isn't one of those.

 

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Keep going!

I think it is fantastic you went out on a date!! Kudos and hurrah!!

 

Instead of waiting for him to call, or not call, or email, or not email, or like you, or not....

 

(going crazy, anyone?)...

 

find yourself another date! And go.  

You did it! You did it!

smile

I am sure there are valid reasons for him not to reply immediately.

don't be sad...be positive.

I am sure you ar very good at reading signals! Have faith in yourself and SMILE.

Smile to yourself, because YOU ARE SO WORTH IT.

the e-mail will come.

I am sure

manu

 

 

 

I'm with Wordbird

The first defense against the "when will he call" phenomenon is to go for quantity.  You're all warmed up on the date front - time to have another. My experience with men alas, tells me many are lacking in the social graces.

The thing I find most amusing is that they think they can get anyone they want - no matter what age , no matter what their shape.  Women tend to be a little more accepting, but not much. 

So I'd just give yourself a pat on the back  for getting out in the dating scene and go for fun, not commitment right away - the commitment will come when it is right.

I agree with them...

Don't dwell on this one guy....go out and have more coffee with more guys! If I was closer, I'd go with you for sure......love the people on your music list- heck I'd hang out just to listen to your music with you! Take care, good luck w/ future dates.....

 

Thanks for sharing!

 

Mike

His Loss...Next!

You're not alone You're not alone

 

 

Same thing happened to me.  But his loss!  Keep dating.  Keep meeting more people and you'll find the one you've been looking for.

MY friend

OK I haven't had to "DATE" in a long time. But if I did this is what I would say...

I am tooo old to waste my time.  Then tell them what you are wanting... This is what my friend did and she found the man of her dreams... after the second date, one year after divorcing.  They have been married for 7 years and are very happy.  That is just how I am, and I wish I had been more myself.. So above all be yourself.  Right?

Going thru the same thing

Yup!  I had a really great first date, we talked and talked and talked, so much in common, we had been talking online EVERY DAY for at least two hours, now, haven't heard from him. Even sent him a Thank You email and he read it but didn't reply.  I will never understand the male mind - is it all about the chase afterall?  I hope not, but I am being really optimistic about this, it has only been a couple of days.  Can understand EXACTLY how you feel!  Micci

I hear you I hear you, Micci