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Birth Date: Sun, Aug 05 1973

Place of residence:
Salem Oregon, United States (map)

I am: In Relationship

Schools: McNary High

Jobs: I have been a server for about 9 years now. I've worked @ IHOP, Sharie's, and Applebee's. Have yet to break that that 3yr. mark. I am also a mother of 4 wonderful children,3 boys(7,9,&almost 14) 1 girl,13. I am also a loving mate for a very deserving man.


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To be the best mom I can, because they are the future.
Reach my ideal weight
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Speak and read Spanish
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Write an inspiring novel
Have a wonderful wedding
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To own a place that I can showcase/sell my art /jewelry along w/other wonderful artists in my community
Become a healing touch therapist
Always appreciate and enjoy the journey of life

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Fri, Aug 08 11:48 AM

Mom is a stranger.

 

 I am just working on what to think. I know I will follow my heart. I am excited but nervous that I will not get what I want to say out. Actually I am not sure what to say. A lot of WHY? questions. I don't want to scare her away but I feel I deserve some sort of explanation even if it is "I was a coward,but I am here now" type thing. I am 35 now and I have had many excuses go through my head through the years. None of them good enough but I still forgive her. I live in the here and now,thank goodness, and that is all I can do. Being a mother myself I can not explain why she never even tried to be in my life. The three brief times I did see her was because I initiated them. Even then I felt no warmth. Took me a long time to come to terms that it was not because of me. Maybe she was never shown love growing up and therefore doesn't know how to show it herself. There I go with another excuse for her. This is the one that I made truth just so I could forgive when I was young.

I am grateful to have been raised by a wonderful Dad who defiantly tried to make up for it. Children need their mothers. I am ready to accept her in our lives. We have so much love to share. She has amazing grandchildren and a wonderful daughter waiting  with open arms. I pray that she will want to get to know and love us too.

Tears fill my eyes with the thought of finally getting to be by her side and maybe be friends. I am extremely happy and sad all at once,very strange! Breathe,Sahndra,and just let it flow like the beautiful waterfall. I want to thank all my wonderful supportive tool mates!! LOVE AND LIGHT-SAHNDRA

 

 

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