No complaints, No complaints

I completed the chapter on "Buttons" the other day.  I spent a long time on the exercise thinking about things that have pushed my buttons in recent memory.  Fortunately, I had to dig for a while.  However, after all that digging I realized that almost everything I'd actually gotten upset about could be fit into 2 or 3 categories.  Wow.. it was so empowering to consciously realize this for the first time.  I actually printed out the exercise (something I don't often do) because it was so significant to me.

The other day I was at home with my parents and my sister, who has since moved from the country but was in town for the weekend.  Often when the group of us are together, there can be conflict.  We've all evolved to become different people, but somehow when we're together everyone assumes that we're the same individuals that we were when the 4 of us last lived together.  This has easily resulted in more than a few fights and hurt feelings in the past.

The entire weekend I felt like a different person.  With the realization about my buttons, the daily logging and rewriting of my complaints, I've really come to understand how this really *IS* all my decision.  I turned to my girlfriend and told her that regardless of what happened this weekend there is no way the huge smile on my face could ever be replaced by anything else.  I said it, and I felt great.  I felt powerful.  And I knew it was true.  I can't describe how great this felt.

I've had a great time the entire weekend.  It was so easy to put myself out there and do nice things for my family members just above and beyond what anyone would expect.  I knew I had complete control of myself and it just let me relax and really give my all.

I've already been through Tools once, and I have to say this 2nd run through has made all the difference.  The material may be the same, but the way I am approaching it is entirely different.  I'm taking Coach Steele's advice seriously and doing all the work.  And wow does it make a difference.

This is my breakthrough, and thank yous are due to the TTL team, Coach Steele, everyone in the community for helping me get here!

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