lunagolden at 2008-11-04

says: One of the hardest things to do in our competitive society is learn to like ourselves as we are - like before love, then love for strength and leading the life we really want. But the message - direct or indirect is - you are a failure - too fat, too thin, too tall, too short...too something..not something else enough. The message we are really getting is - hate yourself. And what better way to demonstrate hate for self than to cut - to do physical damage in a way that demonstrates your contempt for yourself to others. In a way, cutting oneself allows one to control the damage being done - you are doing it to you, so maybe you are protected from others doing it in some other way (i.e. abusing you). But it doesnt work that way - the only way to protect yourself from others is to develop yourself as your own best friend and ally. Best of luck.