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Thu, Mar 26 12:32 PM

It's not so simple

 

I am still doing well with my alcohol avoidance.  It is just too bad that I can't apply a similar tactic to depression.   It isn't possible to just say,  "Depression, no thanks. I don't want it right now.  I am not going to buy any or take any from my friends."  

It is easy to avoid drinking alcohol when it isn't in your presence.  You can't drink anything that isn't available.  If you only have water... guess what you will drink...  right... water.

Depression isn't that simple.  You/I can't just avoid it.  It can come from nowhere... without warning... and have the effect of getting slapped in the face.  

Something can just trigger a memory or some other thought that just doesn't allow me to go back the my previous train of thought.  Good things don't seem the be a problem.  Having a good laugh or smile that hurts my cheeks are fine.  It's the sad things that have a depressing effect that seem to cause problems.  It can be something someone says, something I read, a smell, a song, or any memory trigger that brings my mood down.  I don't understand how that part of depression works.  I understand most of the textbook definitions of depression.  But in practice, I don't understand how I can feel good one minute, and down the next, but never back to fine another minute later.

I guess it is like jumping off a cliff.  You go down fast, but it takes a long time to climb back to the top.  For this metaphor to work, I guess i need to understand what part of me is the equivalent to the force of gravity.  What is holding me back?

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DetonNation DetonNation:

Depression

Depression is a difficult one, but as you go through Tools you learn to control its effects somewhat. I dont sink so low and avoid a lot of the triggers (or cope with them better). So have hope and there is no shame in asking for help. A therapist might work and medication. GL in Tools!

Mike 

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Awareness

Although there are many things we cannot avoid, just being aware of their influence on us leads us to accept the feeling for the moment and then to realize other feelings will indeed come along to take their place.  You are right.  There are many difficult "climbs" in life. Tools is about changing how we think so we can empower ourselves, "boost" our energy for the ascent ahead. I suggest realizing your depressed moods, but then also catching your feel-good moments. That's what they are, moments, some longer, some shorter.  Which do you choose to dwell on? Which ones are you giving power to? I hope your day is beautiful and that you continue to notice your positives--sobriety. Good for you!

Susankayblair Susankayblair:

Just want to cheer you on.

I do not have any wonderful advise for you because I am under a Dr's care for depression, but I would like to cheer you on and say that I quite agree with Mike on asking for help.

 

I know that you can do this and tools really does help an awful lot.

joyeverlasting7 joyeverlasting7:

There is no majic pill or answer to depression.

I wish I could tell you there was. Especially since there are times it jumps on my back to.

 

What I can tell you is that knowing you have a problem with it is the first step.

 

The second step is realizing some of the triggers and avoiding them.

 

Thirdly don't feed into it. When you feel it coming on think is this something I can do something about. 

 

If not then get your mind on to something else something that makes you happy.

 

If there is something you can do about the situation then do it.

 

Either way a busy mind is one that is less likely to be a depressed one.

 

Now mind you everyone gets depressed at some point or another. It is how you handle it.

 

You can be assured since you have triggers then you probably don't have a mental problem.

 

At first until you learn to use tools and learn to get the handle on the depression when it comes upon you you may need to get something from a doctor. Of course that depends on how bad your depression gets.

 

For me it was bad in the beginning and I had to get medication until I got to where I could recognize and take steps to fight it.

 

I am sorry this is so long but I wanted to be sure to include everything so that I could hopefully help you. Now like I said there are times in life everyone will have something hit them hard and it will cause depression. It is natural. BUT it doesn't have to run your life.

 

I am here if you need me.

Bonita