....not really!
I will never forget hearing a
customer say that once about
a situation she had.....I thought
it was such a funny way to express
anger, and thought it funny that
she had an expression that supported
her ability to be angry.
I never forgot it.
I've been checking off the ability to
be 'angry' box on my Self Assessment
Tool as a 9 or 10......really, it's not one
of my problems!
I've grown to like the way we
(the church)used to see anger
as a tool, that one could "take
out of your pocket", use it, and
put it back. "
Even the Living God in the Old
Testament struck His people with
hemmaroids and terrible things
for disobedience....with a type of
anger called Indignation.
Righteous Anger.
Even Jesus is said to have cleared the
temple with a whip, (the animals)and
overturned the tables for changing
the House Of God into place of greed.
It's an inevitable and normal part
of the human psyche, but as Coach
points out, leads to road rage, and
all the other unprofitable situations
that we seem to love ruining our
day with.
I've always thought of myself as a
person who didnt have a problem
with anger. I hate it, and it may be
because I had a family member who
was always over angry at everything,
especially misplacing it to my Brother
and I when it was really over someone
else.
For instance, when another mate is
angry or chooses an unresourceful
way to deal with an issue, I'm so
dissapointed.
It seems to me that when the
issue was revealed, that
ruining the whole evening and
night and making the atmosphere
tense and uncomfortable was
such a shame and such a loss,
and hardly ever worth the issue!
And when there is an arguement,
(which I believe is in and of itself a
natural and normal part of living),
I've always maintained that I NEVER
start throwing in the past, or say
hurtful things and make it personal.
I dont like arguing out of control
just because Im on one side.
I want Truth.
I stay right on point, and try to end
up finding out the Truth, and admitting
I'm wrong and apologizing, or staying
true to myself if I'm right, and defend
my position, but not to the extent that
I hurt my relationship.....after all.....
is saying I Love You for when it's easy,
or is it for when you have to be
honest, forgiving, long suffering, and
patient?
Love Is Not Easily Provoked, or at least
it shouldn't be!
As I was going to write this blog, I
went to my Darling mate, and asked
her if I am an angry person, or if I
was deluding myself about this
subject.
She answered right away and said....
"No you dont have an anger issue at all"
Sometimes you seem frustrated for a
second, but for the most part you are
patient."
Phew!
I think I get hurt or offended, or
dissapointed, but I rarely feel like
anything merits getting outwardly
angry!
A quick story about anger and patience;
* * *
There was a Father and Son on a train,
and there was an obnoxious man close
to them who picked out the Father
to vent himself on.
He was rude and crude, taunting the
man over nothing. The son couldn't
believe that his Father bore with him
quietly, and didnt return tit for tat.
After they left the train, the son asked,
"Dad, how could you stand that man,
why didnt you let him have it?"
The Father answered, "That poor man
has to live with himself for his whole life,
I only had to bear him for a few minutes"
* * *
It seems that we are conditioned to
cheer revenge and violence. It seems
that we are taught to cheer the eventual
come uppance someone deserves in
movies when someone finally get's
fed up and lets em have it!
It's too bad. Now it's going the other
way, when people feel they are wronged,
they go to their place of work and
brutally gun down innocent people
because of an imagined wrong......or
even a true complaint!
Where are we headed?
The only other thing I dont seem to
have as a problem is I'm always prompt,
or just a tad early. If I make a painting
appointment, it's always one of the
points that impresses the client,
compared to other tradesmen. My
Mother taught me that, and really
never was angry at me for being late
as a child, but for not calling.....
Boy, did she ever burn my ears for that!
I'm thankful for my parents. When I
think back, I'm glad they took time
to teach me good habits, and respect.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
I've been clean from pot since July
12th, my Moms Birthday. Thats 10
days.
I now have 3 members in my Quit
Smoking Pot Support group, and have
just included a series of good questions
to any and all drug users, questions
that bugged me while I used.
These are a really good starting point,
and can be used hopefully by all those
here that wish to be free, or by parents
who wish they could help a child.
http://toolstolife.com/groups/view/Quit_Smoking_Pot/discussions/view/8472/
"Love, Love, Love,
Love Is All You Need....."
the Beatles
comments
I agree...
all you need is love...love is all you need! Hang in there Steve, things are going to get better and better and better and better and better ....well .... you get the idea right?