confident1:

I know exactly what you mean

I read somewhere that we shouldn't look at fear so negatively. It's a survival mechanism and if we didn't have it....well....

 "Who wants to pet the pretty tiger?"

Anyway, the advice was to consider fear a warning signal. Sometimes the alarm sounds and the building is on fire and you have to get to the nearest exit. Sometimes, the alarm goes of because you burnt the toast.

I spent a lot of years trying to eliminate fear from my life. I've heard famous entertainers say they are still afraid before they go on stage to give a perfomance. I guess if we view fear as a tool, like an alarm system, it makes it easier to push aside. After all, I have never been attacked by a smoke alarm, have you? Of course, there is always a first time....Yikes!

symmetry:

The Boogy Man Bunch! haha

"Lions, Tigers and Bears! Oh my!"...

Reminds me of one of my blogs I wrote about Oz and fear etc. You are SOOOOO not alone, hiding under the magical blanket with not a toe sticking out so that whatever evil spirit is out there can't grab it!

It sounds to me like you are a very creative person with a gifted imagination and like me and others, that can be a blessing or a curse.

I can experience what goes on in my head ONLY as almost as vividly as actually going through it. YIKES is right!!!

I am struggling with this same issue myself so you are truly NOT ALONE. Things can feel a little bit less threatening and scary when we are with someone else.

We can improve on this together right?! You, me and the rest of The Boogy Man Bunch. tee hee.

1 of the MOST helpful things I have learned in fighting this so far is a dr. taught me to write down something I am afraid of but want to overcome. Break it down into as tiny little bits and steps as I can. with the end goal as the last steps. So if for me it was driving, the first step would be a passenger. Ok good, handled that well now, next time, sit in a parked car behind the wheel and talk about the use of the car with a driver in the passenger seat. Ok didn't faint yet... Next time start the car and just move up and down the drive way. and so on and so forth.

You push yourself just a teensy tiny bit so the discomfort doesn't frighten you back under the magical blanket and when you get through it you get stronger and feel more invincible to the boogy man until finally you see the light and find he was only a bathrobe on your chair afterall. HUGS

You're not alone

Sunrose:

Great blog

This was a great blog to read. What can I say about the comments the others left....WoW! They are great too.

I agree!

oldangelsue:

Living in the Now Moment

...is all there is.  When I let go of past pain and future fear, I can do anything that now requires of me and you can too.  Past failings haunt me....you know I tried to lose weight hundreds of times and only succeeded once - only to put the weight back on again and then some.  Does this mean I can't do it?  No.  It just means I didn't do it yet.  Does this mean I shouldn't try?  No, but it does mean I should try differently that the ways I tried before (since they obviously did not work...or perhaps I was not working it).  Anyway, tools has been so amazing in giving me encouragement and step by step methods to find my best self, I hope you can find your answers here too.