Hello Fellow tools to life members! Today I have just finished my first week of tools, something I was never sure about starting or if I did start it if I would like it and if I did like would I be able to make it.
I have over come the first step which is starting and becoming a member and now using these tools as a huge part of my every day life. I know that with each day there will be more success but with success sometimes may come harder times, I myself found this out today...
I currently do not speak to most of the members of my family. About a year ago I had come to the unfortunate truth that they didn't care about me and where not there to support me unless it had benefited them in large ways. We have had many fights and major miscommunication over the past few months about the positive changes I had already started making to better my daily quality of life even though I have made some bad ones as well which I have taken responsibility for... but any who, today my twin sister called me in dismay over a family matter, nothing that any of these members were hurt or dead over just an outcome of many bad choices she had made in her life.
Many times throughout our life she had used me as a crutch to the point I had started to unravel to a person I didn't even know and couldn't even see it.
Today I was able to talk to her without yelling or having resentment toward her and our past and calmly tell her that I have not been around this particular situation and I didn't feel that it was OK for me to intervene in anyway but told her to stay positive not to say "I will TRY" but I WILL and I CAN and I AM positive" and start to make better changes within her life and to keep on with living!"
After the conversation with her she had stopped crying and talking and you can hear in her voice there was a smile. Why, you may ask could someone smile after you tell them you can't help them and they had made these mistakes in their life....Because I was able to use my tools to keep myself strong and not use negative way to speak to her but with positive statements and a calming voice letting her know she was the only person that can decide to make these changes!
I thank you all for reading and hope this inspires all of you the way that I had inspired myself and being proud of myself for the strength that I have already built that I never knew I could have. I also thank my amazingly Fantastic boyfriend for being the start of my positive changes and for his never ending support in my choices... I LOVE YOU :)