had a free trial run so I went ahead and filled out their questionnaire. This"internet" dating idea, I donno. Dating is all about intimacy. Face-to-face interaction. The awkward, fabulous and unpredictable spontaneous talk. A wink. A stammer. A blush. You miss all that, on line.
But anyway....it was FUN. I'm impressed by their software and the weird accuracy in summarizing my personality. It's strange, in fact, that so few questions can accurately size me up. I want to be all complex and mysterious! But no, I fit a category, says this computer. They gave me "matches." THAT was fun too. It is amazing how much we reveal about ourselves, if the other is paying attention, in a few sentences. For instance, one man mentioned, twice, he values "obedience" in a woman. (yeh. That was obviously a mix-up and got into my pile by mistake). Another guy mentioned FOUR times how humble and simple he is. Okay. I believe you, if you want me to that badly. Then there's the guy who "rejected" me because "she hasn't answered my message!" Uh...you only wrote two hours ago. And then, there were five guys...FIVE...I know I would have a blast on a date with any of them. I'd feel that tremendous relaxed, happy ease I feel with people who "fit" my world view.
I'm not going to spend the money to join. It's expensive! Besides they want you to be "serious" about finding a mate. Hey I just tackled my filing system. I'm defining my Identity on Day 67. I'm way not ready for serious romance. But I really feel happy, knowing there ARE wonderful men out there with whom I might be a "match." I'm sorry to say, "Not ready yet." I'll miss out on some really neat people. I need to be ready. I need to be as fully and wonderfully and happily ME as I can, before I seek someone to share me with.
I dated someone six years in New Orleans and you know, there's no point dating someone for six years when you know you don't have a future. He was an adorable person and completely, 100% not available for a serious committment. He'd scream and run away if the Ghost of Christmas"intimacy" showed up. SIX years. Why why why do we do that???
My eharmony profile might be useful, though, in definition and finding of "me." So I appreciate the opportunity, eharmony, to see what you are about. And....here's wishing those lovely human beings an answer, to their desires.