Harry fights his own fight

So...there's been great blogs about visits to family. Someone had this fabulous list of the music and journals she would take with her. That was such an uplifting approach. And  people who carefully thought things through, decided on new behaviors, and are writing back that the dread visit is going GREAT.  Inspiring.

I'm stuck though. My family is in a tough situation, my mom is ill, she may lose her home she designed and had built on acres of wood and meadow...I have such a pull to drive 17 hours to go "fix" and "rescue" and solve. Even though it's rare a person can actually achieve that. Instead in the past I ended up with pneumonia, exhaustion and grief.  

What I WANT to do, what I picture, is taking my increased inner strength, optimism, self-love and Tools with me, and they somehow shine and glow, so even if nothing gets better in the situation, we all FEEL better. What if I smile, and listen, and look after my own needs and feelings? What if I don't fret or worry or jump into the quicksand with them? But instead I think hard about what faith I have in them-- faith they can and will work it out for themselves. 

I"m going to make tapes to take with me.   Besides her illness and the house issue, she and family and community are all tied in knots, and conflict over an important local issue. She's a compelling person. Beautiful, witty, intelligent, complex. But quite ill. And right now, quite angry and I suppose scared. It's hard for me to hang on to "me" when I'm there. To see a direction for my life, because their need is great. 

It sounds really goofy...I just saw the new Harry Potter movie. I won't give it away. Someone powerful protects Harry, but then, it attacks Harry. The powerful person sits near him, reminding him he has what it takes....as we watch Harry struggle. The powerful person lends his support and faith, yet he does nothing else to help. Harry has to struggle through this himself. Harry uses strength and skill someone else taught him, and the strength of his relationships and positive memories, to try and fight back. But the dark force gets Harry anyway and so there will never be another Harry Potter movie. NO! That's not what happens.

There's a lesson though here. You just can't fight someone elses' fights, for them. The best thing this powerful figure did was BELIEVE in Harry and sit close by so his faith and care could really be felt.

In fact first he had protected himself, shielding Harry from the side effects. When Harry tried to help him he pushed Harry away. Then he lent his Faith while Harry fought his own fight.

I need to be able to do that for myself, and for my family. To respect and honor their abilities, their struggles, their own journey; to believe in us all, and to protect myself at all levels. And that other thing I was saying the other day? Have FUN? Yeh. That too.

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