bat man: 2007-09-17

says: hi, i am brand new to all of this and my life has reached a point that i can not withstand much longer. i have many addicts in my family going back generations. i believe mostly to numb deppresion. now i find myself at 47 self medicating because i do not have the capabilities to accept the pain of the reality in which i live. has anyone hade succes over substance abuse? it seems to me i have no willpower. thanks if you have any suggestions.

Freya: 2007-09-12

says: Septmber 12.2007Whypretend? Are you doing Tools? Are you a success there? Pick a small goal and achieve it..Set a date to do something and do it.Make a reward book. so when you achieve something,example( walk every day for a week) get outyour reward book and give yourself a reward. Looking for success or trying to look successful sounds like you are looking to others for their opinion of you.  What do you think about yourself? What do you want for yourself?  Freya 

YoYo: 2007-09-06

says: thanks for the insight. I'll see what I can do.

goldendiamondpanda: 2007-09-05

says: Just seen your profile - as you're a young student don't worry so much about 'classy accessories'! Just be confident x

goldendiamondpanda: 2007-09-05

says:

That depends what you want to be successful in. I'm only on day 6.

I would say dress as smartly as you can every day, have classy accessories, walk tall. Get your hair done and keep your shoes nice. Have pride in yourself - don't automatically state the negative aspects of anything in your life (this is one of my habits I'm trying to break). Smile and be kind, like you are happy with yourself and have good advice to share. Be encouraging, like you have experience of things working out right.

Make sure everything to do with you looks good - your CV (stylish and positive), your home and your work space (organised), your food (healthy). Radiate self-respect and have it reflected back to you in your surroundings.

That might be a lot of rubbish but I hope there's something useful in there. By the way, I don't do all this stuff because I have other priorities right now!