An Abuser contacted me today!

When I read the letter on facebook, my heart began to race, I couldn't breathe good, and my chest was very tight!

My ex-husband from 13 years ago contacted me today.  He was extreamly abusive and I never had the chance to voice my hurt, fear, and feelings of betrayal until today.

The anxiety attack was a signal that there was something still needing fixed in my heart.  With the help of my wonderful husband, Michael, we worked through the anxiety. 

I held the ex accountable for the abuse in a stern but not malicious way.  I finally gave it a voice and it feels good.  I let him know how it scarred me and my children. Toward the end of my reply, I told him that I didn't hate him and that I hoped he could find peace and heal from his childhood hurts and anger issues if he hadn't alreay.

I closed with these thoughts:

Mantras:
Though I’ve been hurt, I’ll not harbor hate;
Though betrayed, I’ll still live with love;
Though my heart aches, I’ll hold onto hope;
When there is fear; I’ll move forth with faith.

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