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| I was 8 I dreamed of going to Sweden. On 13/3/1980 I arrived in Stockholm, not for a moment thinking about the fact that I was on the other side of the world, all by myself. I had the best 7 weeks of my life and can still feel the coldness of snow falling on my tongue for the first time. It was really awesome to hold a snowflake on my finger and see the complexities of shape and colour - perhaps this is where I first got the idea to draw Celtic knots? |
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Dont worry!
Well, I don't know much about your situation but, this is what I think, which is what I have learned from the book I have been reading 'feel the fear, and do it anyway!' it is a very good book, I recommend it!
It looks like you have positive reasons to stay and positive reasons to leave, therefore I don't think you can make a wrong decision here, as both will bring you opportunities to learn and grow.
If you stay, and get to know him better you could grow to love him as he loves you, or you could decide he is not the one for you, and move on.
If you leave, you will be giving yourself the opportunity to meet new people, and concentrate on other parts of your life more.
Whatever decision you make, if you give it your best shot, you will have created opportunities to experience life in a new way, which you can use in a positive way no matter what the outcome is! perhaps if you consider that, the decision may not be so hard to make?
Though in your situation I would still find it a difficult decision to make! I am still learning myself
You're very kind
I'm not sure what the solution is, but you are a good person and kind enough to be putting others first when you too are involved in rather a deep way.
I'm sure you'll see a solution soon
lots of love
x
Honesty
Have you shared your feelings with him.
Maybe there is a part of the relationship that needs a little work.
If your wanting to leave stems from your past and difficulties staying in relationships then seek counsel. You want happiness and it maybe right in front of you.
Ditto honesty
Since you do care for him and don't want to hurt him, it seems like it would be important for him to know how you feel. Then he could become part of the solution.
He may not want to be in a relationship where his feelings are not being met. It would give him a chance to decide too or to explore with you what might need to be different.
Speak from your heart and you can't go wrong.
Okay, okay, I get it.
Now just you look here Cathie and MM - you really do believe in cutting to the chase don't you!
In one foul swoop you have both found my achilles heal. Yes, I am really hopeless at communicating what I want or need. All my life I have been getting into trouble because I'm so inept at asking for help. And I can tell that you think I should be asking for Glen's help to sort out our relationship. In my head right now, I am doing some reverse action roleplaying so I can figure out where we need to start talking from. I know this isn't going to be easy - neither of us are very good at communicating, but I will use all the courage I can muster and talk with him.
Would you believe, Moogle that today I was working on tidying up our library at work, and we have that very book you mentioned! So I borrowed it. There's that inner voice again, telling me to tidy the library this time.
Write!
When it is too difficult to speak, sometimes I find it helpful to write a letter. That way I can be very careful with my words, not be hurtful and I don't get interrupted before I even begin. Why not send him an email or a letter and ask him to write you back so you can begin an open dialogue. Good luck Becnek...you deserve to find your happiness.
me too!!!
i'm not sure of your circumstance, but i'm in the same boat, so to speak. maybe we could talk. i don't know how to deal with this either. except that i know my guy is not willing to do the work because then HE would be vulnerable, and that's not his way. it's tough, i know. :(