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Sun, Jan 17 09:42 PM

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Today's toolbox was all about lying to yourself.  I always thought that I was someone who was extremely honest to myself and everyone around me.  Recently I have found out that wasn't true and that the lies I told myself resulted in a hard life lesson.  My biggest lie was:

 

My marriage is successful.

 

Anytime that anyone called me on this lie I did everything I could to convince them they were wrong.  It became a daily habit to lie about my marriage.  By lying to the people around me I made it easier to lie to myself.  Since no one knew what was going on they would provide me with advice that encouraged me to stay in an unhealthy situation.

 

A month ago all my lies came to a head and it became impossible to continue on with the facade.  I also quickly learned that most people had already seen through the stories I was telling.  In the end it would have been easier if I had just told the truth to myself and others in the first place.

 

This was an important life lesson for me and I will do everything in my power to be more honest and fair to myself in the future. 

 

If we can't be honest with ourselves, who can we be honest with? And another thing, does the truth really matter if we ignore it?

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your question

"If we can't be honest with ourselves , who can we be honest with?" I don't think we can be honest with ANYONE! What you said is true. "By lying to the people around me I made it easier to lie to myself." This same thing happend to me. I still sometimes catch myself LYING to myself because of all the lying I did before. "The yes I am fine!" "Yes I love my husband! We are great!" All that stuff. I allowed my husband to treat me like dirt because of my own fears. I made up stories in my own head and well I have had to learn that is the worst thing I could have done to ME! IF other people lie to you you - I bet you don't put up with it...but for some strange reason lying to ourselves is acceptable? Anyway Its a hard pill to swallow - to admit that we lie to ourselves. Thank you for your post and for your honesty about it.  I hope things work out for you and life is everything you want it to be!!! Good Luck!!

 

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I realized I was lying to myself about drinking, then after being sober for a few days and having a clear head I started to realize all the other parts of my life I had been lying to myself about.  Really is a huge eye opener when you catch youself lying to YOU.  But on a positive note it is one hell of a motivater to make a better life.

 

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