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  Celena

Wed, Apr 28 05:10 PM

Bummer Dude....

 

So I was on this three month hiatus from work for me time. I went back to work. Im a retail sales manager. Today (week2 back) my District Manager came to visit. He asked if I thought I should demote myself because he thought I should. He told me my staff hates me. The whole day was a fucking bummer. All this screws up other stuff in my life. How you wonder? Lemme tell you as quickly as I can here because its a long story. Hubby has MS, has to go for chemo to stop an attack from hurting him, can't afford to freeze soldiers, we're getting old (32 and 37...add a year when we have a bday this yr), Canada has laws about what you get paid for maternity leave based on how long you worked and how many hours so I can't start new job cos I cant put off baby making....OH GOD, anyone following cos its so much I'm losing myself....

 

All this said, I feel like I failed tools because I cant find the opportunity, the positive in this. Its like Alice falling down the rabbit hole. Only difference, she figures it all out. Begging for some help here. Begging for someone to say something nice to me. Please help brighten my bummer day. 

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Damn.

I was just posting my blog, as I just got fired today and am in desperate need of some kindness, too.  Next blog below mine was yours, and my heart goes out to you!  Given my day, I won't even try to throw out any career advice, but I will say I enjoy your posts, and I wish you and your husband the best.  You definitely aren't failing Tools, because you're still trying.  :) Good luck, get a good night's sleep, and tomorrow that opportunity may just appear out of nowhere - you never know where it will come from!

Opportunity

OK well you could ask the people you work with why they hate you and try to change it. That is if they really do not like you ( I don't like hate),maybe your boss is just saying that. He maybe full of shit, just to see if you'll step down. If I told an employee that and they did step down then I would be glad cuzz I wouldn't think they were the right person for the job. On the other hand I know how you must fell but     (time to harden the fuck up), are you at this job to make friends or make money. You said that this shit will fuck up your life. Then don't let anyone do that. It's your choice weather to make an opportunity here.Don't go on what one person said. Like I said before, find out if they don't like you and when you ask them tell them your boss said so. Put it all on him. you can do this girl. don't let it get you down. It's your life and nothing can happen without you stamp of approval on it. Come harden the fuck up and then smile. Good luck hun!!!! Let me know how it turns out.

Time to breath.

Take a moment to take a good long deep breath.  Give yourself permission to feel what is going on your life then let it go, and give it all away.  Let the feelings that some punk left imprinted into your mind float away.

You are an amazing person and you have come so far since you started on the tools journey.  Do not give up!  You can do it!  I am here for you and so are many others.

Take care.

Brian

I got your back

do what's right for you Cel, if pleasing others isn't what pleases you then you have to do stuff for yourself,  I'm there for you along with everyone here at tools.

Good Luck!

JP

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Hi Celena, Your manager sounds like a dick.  I really wouldn't worry after only 2 weeks back. 

 

I'm sorry to hear you are having such a difficult time.  Try to keep hold of the positives while you ride out the storm. 

 

You arn't failing, because your still here looking for your opportunities.

 

Good luck with the baby making.  Have fun!

JUST STOP AND BREATH

Remember when it feels like its going to explode just stop and think about it . I always think that someone else has it worse off out there and thats the truth . Just remember to look for the opportunity in situations , maybe theres a better job out there . I bet there are a lot of positive things in your life , judging from this page you have a lot of support , good luck to you!

BIG BAD DAY

Darlin' you haven't failed anything.  Your on Tools.  Your are trying to figure it all out and you haven't given up.  Remember to breath and be grateful for what you do have.  Good things will come -- bad days will happen -- but with effort we will all get better together.  Hang On -- You're Okay. 

BIG BAD DAY

Darlin' you haven't failed anything.  Your on Tools.  Your are trying to figure it all out and you haven't given up.  Remember to breath and be grateful for what you do have.  Good things will come -- bad days will happen -- but with effort we will all get better together.  Hang On -- You're Okay. 

BIG BAD DAY

Darlin' you haven't failed anything.  Your on Tools.  Your are trying to figure it all out and you haven't given up.  Remember to breath and be grateful for what you do have.  Good things will come -- bad days will happen -- but with effort we will all get better together.  Hang On -- You're Okay. 

BIG BAD DAY

Darlin' you haven't failed anything.  Your on Tools.  Your are trying to figure it all out and you haven't given up.  Remember to breath and be grateful for what you do have.  Good things will come -- bad days will happen -- but with effort we will all get better together.  Hang On -- You're Okay. 

BIG BAD DAY

Darlin' you haven't failed anything.  Your on Tools.  Your are trying to figure it all out and you haven't given up.  Remember to breath and be grateful for what you do have.  Good things will come -- bad days will happen -- but with effort we will all get better together.  Hang On -- You're Okay. 

 

 

 

BIG BAD DAY

Darlin' you haven't failed anything.  Your on Tools.  Your are trying to figure it all out and you haven't given up.  Remember to breath and be grateful for what you do have.  Good things will come -- bad days will happen -- but with effort we will all get better together.  Hang On -- You're Okay. 

 

 

 

BIG BAD DAY

Darlin' you haven't failed anything.  Your on Tools.  Your are trying to figure it all out and you haven't given up.  Remember to breath and be grateful for what you do have.  Good things will come -- bad days will happen -- but with effort we will all get better together.  Hang On -- You're Okay. 

BIG BAD DAY

Darlin' you haven't failed anything.  Your on Tools.  Your are trying to figure it all out and you haven't given up.  Remember to breath and be grateful for what you do have.  Good things will come -- bad days will happen -- but with effort we will all get better together.  Hang On -- You're Okay. 

 

 

 

you are right where you need to be.

You know it sounds as if maybe your Boss is threatened by you.And HELL no I would not step down .(If he really wanted you gone he would fire you) do not do his job for him! You did the best thing you came to your support network where we all know your great and don't intend to let you forget it.As for your employees It doesn't sound realistic that all the employees told him they hated you.so just blow that comment off. In life we all know things happen for a reason.So stay with us on tools today and soak up some positive reinforcement then start tomorrow for what it is a brand new day.