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My mother is my hero. She was diagnosed with a rare bone disorder. It took ten years of going to specialists, and having every test run just to find out what was wrong with her. When most people including myself would have given up, she toughed it out, beat it, and is having the best life she has had in twenty years.
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| Lose fifty pounds. Get out of debt. Become more motivated in life. Take more risks. Quit drinking. Quit smoking. Get married. Have children. Go to Europe. Go to Asia. Go to Austalia. Go to California. Remodel my kitchen. Quit seeking others approval. Open my own bar/grill |
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Hi there
You are not alone - I hear you. I have also recently ended an engagement and I have blamed myself for it all - interesting really, since if I had had the choice I would have ended it anyway :-) Because he ended it, I feel duped. If I had ended it it would have felt like a sensible decision.
I agree - its really easy to lapse into this spiral of negative stuff. I have been there for about 3 weeks and am starting to find my way out. Tools lately has been covering off relationship stuff whcih has been hard reading for me. I actually found that I needed to get angry about it all - and I have! I've journalled, punched pillows, I have acknowledged I am hurt and angry, and that seems to have made a big difference. I also wrote him a letter which I then ripped up and threw away.
I hope that you are being kind to yourself right now. A cliche but true - how you feel at the moment is totally normal, and necessary too, for you to move forward. Don't hide from how you feel.
I also wanted to say that your fiancee was meant to be a part of your life, but clearly, not meant to be in your future. I know this is easy for me to say, and less easy for you to read, but I'm so glad you found that out now. In time you'll look back on this and realise you learned an awful lot of lessons. Right now it just sucks lol :-) and I understand as I am there also.
Take care, and please drop me a line if I can help in anyway. You will be okay, trust me.