As time went on, the man's buttons became easier and easier to push and he swirled around more and more out of control. Many people around the man became concerned and tried to counsel him. "Why don't you stop letting everyone push your buttons?" they asked. "Stop and think before you become so upset." The man told these people that he couldn't help himself, but, of course, this was not true.

On of the man's children, a son named Matt, got tired of having tornadoes in his home and decided to talk to his father. So Matt sat down with his father one night and said, "You've got to do soemthing about your buttons. You've got to lock them in a way that they can't be pushed. You've got to put some glue around them or find some other solution so that this house isn't constantly filled with tornadoes. Living in this home filled with swirling tornadoes is making me depressed."

"I can't change, " his father responded. "There's no way to keep my buttons from being pushed."

"Of course you can change," Matt responded with determination. "When I started to play Little League, I didn't know how to bat or to pitch or to catch a baseball. You can learn to change all of your buttons that you're allowing everyone to push. You're as smart as I am, so I'm sure that if I can figure out how to bat and pitch in my baseball games, you can learn how to keep your buttons from being pushed. You can discover the answer within yourself that you need to eliminate your buttons."

Matt's talk had an effect on his father who began to think about the things Matt had said to him. Perhaps because his son had been the one to talk to him, the words Matt had said began to make sense. "I am going to find a way to keep everyone from pushing my buttons." he said to himself firmly. "I'm so tired of becoming a tornado and being upset all the time."

Certain people around this man had been able to push his buttons more than others. So, in the beginning, he focused on changing the way he responded to one of these people. The next time this person tried to push his buttons, the buttons wouldn't push. Instead of becoming a tornado, he smiled. That made the button pusher really, really angry. When this happened, the button pusher tried even harder to push his buttons, but the man no longer allowed his buttons to be pushed. He just laughed and didn't pay any attention to the button pusher at all.

His son, Matt, was happy to see that his father had learned to behave in a new way. As the father stopped letting  people push his buttons, the other members of the household learned to change their behavior, too. Everyone discovered how much easier it was to live in a house without tornadoes and buttons that were constantly being pushed.

In the days that followed, Matt's father became better and better at refusing to let anyone push his buttons. He was so successful at learning new behaviors that it wasn't long before the day arrived when no one could see his buttons at all... they had disappeared. The man had discovered that anyone can learn and change.