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Mon, Jun 13 10:14 PM

can I self treat my low self esteem?

 

I have what is called "social phobia" or low self esteem I hate it! is it possible I can treat it without seeing a doctor?

how do I make my voice sound right?-my voice goes low, or sounds like soft and girly..(someone once  complained that he hates the sound of my voice)

I always go mind blank when making a conversation...or just go all over the place..sometimes people cant understand me...or I just seem uninterested...its just I dont know what to say!

how do I go to a till without shaking when I try to get the money out of the wallet..

I always feel nervous in front of people I know from school...

how do I stop muscle twiching in the bottom of my lip and around the face when someone takes a photo? it gets worse when they are slow..

how do I stop doing things wrong all the time? - most things I do goes wrong...its like I'm either thick or cant concentrate, especially if I'm working in a group...

What is CBT? and is it possible to do it free online?

I have a passion in learning languages...so talking on skype or other messengers and webcam could help me gain confidence?

 

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wuff? lol yea...heheh thanks for you advice :)

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To start, you're going to have to accept yourself a bit. Your voice fluccuations sounds to be a consequence of your nervousness. Try to relax, and be confident of what you are saying. If you're confident with your words, the effects of the credibility you convey in what you are saying will pass onto how you say it. BUUuut it also sounds like you aren't very confident with WHAT you are saying or is unsure of what to say in the appropriate context.

When making casual conversations, listen to what they are saying, and comment on it. You don't neccessarily have to relate it back to yourself all the time, but just show that you are interested in what they are saying (even if you may not be ...lol). Make eye contact, ask questions about what they are saying, such as their opinions, how they FEEEeeeel about it. Most of the time people just seem to want somebody to listen to them.

Public interactions as in the case of paying for something at the store. Take things with a grain of salt, and just do what you've got to do. No one is judging you, and even if they were, what does it matter. Not like you'll probably see them.

A good way to practice interaction is to just go to a populated area and strike up conversations with strangers. I do it whenever I'm bored in the summer since I don't have really have many friends where I spend my summers. Real-life interaction allows you to also pick up on physical gestures and behaviours that also contribute to the essence of a conversation.

Don't know about CBT.

Good luck brozane!

PS. Your anxiety maybe due to the fact that you are a Dog living in a Human world. Perhaps you are hearing the call of the wild?