I am 22 years old. I found tools to life through the Jason Ellis Show and am here to generally become a better person. I am also hoping to overcome a few challenges that I am currently working through.
I grew up in a small rural community. I enjoy fishing, golfing, bowling, among other laid back recreational activities. I just graduated college with a BS in Psychology. I am currently employed with a Behavioral Health Agency.
I am hoping to attend graduate school in the fall in the area of Social Psychology and plan to work towards a PhD. My aspiration is to become a college professor.
My question deals with an ex-girlfriend. We broke up once, got back together and broke up again. I love her more than anything in the world but it seems that while dating we cannot grow in our relationship. We are best friends currently and she is everything I could ever ask for. I want to try to get back together with her. I do not know what her feelings are about it and I do not want to risk ruining the friendship we have by having her disagree with my thoughts or if she would agree to another go having something happen that will put a permanent devide between us. She is a person I need to have in my life but I do not want to risk the possibility of losing her completely.
I agree with tsubo.. I've been in this situation now for almost 2 months and its extremely emotionally draining... I've always been "friendly" with ex's but never really stayed good friends. I think you need to definitely choose 1 or the other, commit 100% or cut ties.
At the same time though, use tools to better yourself. The biggest thing you need to look at when getting back with an ex is what caused the relationship to fail in the first place? Have both or either of you changed? Are you both willing to put in the time and effort to make it work this time? Until this issue is resolved, there is a good chance it will continue to occur.