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I am 22 years old. I found tools to life through the Jason Ellis Show and am here to generally become a better person. I am also hoping to overcome a few challenges that I am currently working through.

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My question deals with an ex-girlfriend. We broke up once, got back together and broke up again. I love her more than anything in the world but it seems that while dating we cannot grow in our relationship. We are best friends currently and she is everything I could ever ask for. I want to try to get back together with her. I do not know what her feelings are about it and I do not want to risk ruining the friendship we have by having her disagree with my thoughts or if she would agree to another go having something happen that will put a permanent devide between us. She is a person I need to have in my life but I do not want to risk the possibility of losing her completely.

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newbeginning newbeginning at 2009-12-22

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I agree with tsubo.. I've been in this situation now for almost 2 months and its extremely emotionally draining... I've always been "friendly" with ex's but never really stayed good friends.  I think you need to definitely choose 1 or the other, commit 100% or cut ties.

 

At the same time though, use tools to better yourself.  The biggest thing you need to look at when getting back with an ex is what caused the relationship to fail in the first place? Have both or either of you changed? Are you both willing to put in the time and effort to make it work this time?  Until this issue is resolved, there is a good chance it will continue to occur.

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I joined TOOLS because:
 I heard the Jason Ellis Show and Devlyn Steel seems generally interested in the well being of those involved in the program.
You are offered your dream job. What job is it?:
 Tenured Professor
My favorite wild animal is:
 Emu
Why (describe as much as possible):
 I believe the emu is a good descriptipon of myself. I see a emu as very quick with the ability to quickly defend itself and still look as majestic as it does.
My favorite domestic animal is (if you choose dog be specific with breed etc):
 English Bulldog
Why:
 Sluggish, Loyal, looks amazing
A famous Chef will prepare anything you want. What do you order:
 Kobe beef prime rib medium rare with Black pepper crust. Baby peas and a twice baked potato
Why:
 Always wanted to try Kobe beef
Five people either dead or alive you would have at your fantasy dinner party::
 Lenny O'Connor, Bill Clinton, Richard Dawkins, Buddha, Jack Sabol (deceased)
Why:
 Best friend, favorite president, Brilliant author, spiritual guide, grandfather who I still have to do things with
If a pilot would fly you anywhere you want, you would go to:
 Paris France
My perfect slice of pizza is:
 Peperoni and Pineapple
You are at a bar. You order this drink:
 Labatt's Blue
You are at a coffee shop. What coffee or tea do you order:
 Regular coffee cream and extra sugar
If a genie could grant you three wishes they would be (separate by commas):
 financial freedom, one more chance with an ex, Knowledge of the history of man
You are going on a long road trip and you can only bring three CD's. Which ones do you bring (separate by commas):
 Toxicity-System of a down, Wrath-Lamb of God, The Buzz
If I could do anything for my neighborhood today, it would be:
 Build a Parking Garage
A sunset I remember:
 watchin the sunset over cape may while having dinner with my girlfirend at the time after just preparing an amazing seafood and pasta dinner.
Any character I could be from a movie, TV show or book would be:
 Andrew Largeman from Garden State
Why:
 I believe I am turning into him