erinsav 's blog :: negativity

Birth Date: Sun, Jul 17 1977

Place of residence:
Billerica MA, United States (map)

I am: Married

Jobs: Body Art by Erin - Face Painting, Body Painting, Glitter Tattooing

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Member Since: 07/31/08
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Burst of Smile Joy and laughter through Stillness

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Music:

Pretty much everything except for country and polka.

Books:

The Spirituality of Imperfection, The Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desires

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Key West

I Want To See:

Ireland, The Grand Canyon, Las Vegas

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Body Art, Face painting, Glitter Tattooing

Activities:

Keeping up with my 6 year old

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Not so much

Movies:

The Big Lebowski,

TV:

Lost

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I Want To Meet:

Deepak Chopra

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Areas In My Life I Want To Work On

I Suffer From

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erinsav's Life List:

Get my body art business up, running, and making money

sing karaoke

make a public speech

have no debt

Be more outgoing and friendly in public.

Teach my child solid life and coping skills

Laugh more

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Negative Self Talk

I have noticed a weird thing that I do. If I get into an argument with my husband and he says something that I allow to make me feel bad about myself, I then go off on this weird negative self talk tangent.

I start going over all the negative things about myself and convincing myself that I'm no good. Why do I do that? How do I stop doing that?

Once I have a few minutes to think about things I can usually turn it around using some of the techniques described in tools to life but why do I go this way in the first place.

I guess I really have to master the art of not letting other people's anger or negativity effect me. Easier said than done right?

This morning my husband and I got in a little bit of an argument and he said something that hurt my feelings. I kind of blew up about it and went off on one of my negative self talk binges.

After he left for work I had some time to think about what happened. He is frustrated over a situation and shouldn't have said what he did but in all reality... he's not mad at me about the situation. He's just mad. I was just a place for him to take out his anger I guess.

I just have to get better at spotting this type of situation a little earlier on so that I don't torture myself in my head.

My 15 minutes of silence helped me out greatly today. Along with concentrating on my breathing I also concentrated on the fact that I'm smart, I'm funny and I can usually do anything I put my mind to. I felt a lot better once I was done.