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Tue, Aug 05 07:26 AM

Negative Self Talk

 

I have noticed a weird thing that I do. If I get into an argument with my husband and he says something that I allow to make me feel bad about myself, I then go off on this weird negative self talk tangent.

 

I start going over all the negative things about myself and convincing myself that I'm no good. Why do I do that? How do I stop doing that? 

 

Once I have a few minutes to think about things I can usually turn it around using some of the techniques described in tools to life but why do I go this way in the first place.

 

I guess I really have to master the art of not letting other people's anger or negativity effect me. Easier said than done right? 

 

This morning my husband and I got in a little bit of an argument and he said something that hurt my feelings. I kind of blew up about it and went off on one of my negative self talk binges.

 

After he left for work I had some time to think about what happened. He is frustrated over a situation and shouldn't have said what he did but in all reality... he's not mad at me about the situation. He's just mad. I was just a place for him to take out his anger I guess. 

 

I just have to get better at spotting this type of situation a little earlier on so that I don't torture myself in my head.

 

My 15 minutes of silence helped me out greatly today. Along with concentrating on my breathing I also concentrated on the fact that I'm smart, I'm funny and I can usually do anything I put my mind to. I felt a lot better once I was done.

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Sahndra_om Sahndra_om:

I feel ya...

I used to do that a lot. It does take mental discipline though.  I am not a master at it yet but I have been able to catch myself a lot sooner and turn it around. Or I think 'In the past I would have thought this'...and kinda laugh and tell myself how good I feel that I don't put myself down anymore. I don't deserve that. Also about absorbing others negative energy, I visualize putting on a purple velvet cloak that protects my energy especially after meditating because I opened myself up. Doesn't have to be purple or even a cloak it just has to be something that you visualize that protects. That way you can GIVE some positive energy to help dissipate the negativity and no one can take it from you without you letting them. Hope this helps. It has for me,I just need to remember to use it. LOVE AND LIGHT-SAHNDRA

erinsav erinsav:

Thanks Guys

I really needed your words.

bright08 bright08:

good job

hi dear...thats what exactly i do these days my husband is really a hard working person and gets tensed very easily and becoz of it he is mad at me sometimes for no reason....well as good wives we should understand that it is there emotions that they r throwing on us...so now a days i dont bother to make a comment just sit still n and listen to him...and leave the place...once he is ok i will go back and ask him whats the matter that has been bothering him..

  well as u said it is not becoz our husbands dont love us but it may be as i think they dont get enough time to be with themselves and think like us.....carry on with ur good work and always be a supportive wife....

 help him out always and never irritate him let his inner voice be able to tell him to change his actions

  ....all good wishes to u and ur family

 

 

    bright08