This is from an email I recieved the other day. Interesting thoughts and I wanted to share this with you all.
"The other day a man in the gym I train at began to tell me of his problems.
Good thing is we were at a gym where I could stretch, breathe and concentrate on exercising.
As he focused and talked about his problems
I concentrated - without talking - on getting stronger and more flexible. I did not stretch to solve a problem or to get rid of anything. I stretch because it helps me improve upon and work toward a specific goal.
After nearly 10 minute of yapping about his
problems, the man paused for a moment
to ask, 'Well, what do you think.'
'This stretch is getting a lot easier,' I said.
'I like how you can choose a target, work
on it a little each day and see progress.'
The man didn't know what to say. He stopped talking - and that, as far as I'm concerned, is a good thing.
Later in the day I saw him again and he
apologized for breaking my 'No Whining' Rule.
Now, perhaps the above may seem 'insensitive.' Yet, I believe it is almost always the best medicine for people who talk about their problems. If you can get people to stop telling their 'song and dance' - not just to me, but to everyone else, too - they'd be a lot further down the road of success.
When you speak of your problems without a desire to rise above them, you activate your Automatic Failure Mechanism. Sure, you may find people who offer you solutions to your problems - and if you follow their advice it can help you - but if you don't, if you only
want to moan and groan - then nothing positive will come of it.
What you want to do is give up problem solving all together and focus on being creatively alive. You begin doing things because you want to do them - not because you've hit a pain threshold that is somehow forcing you to move; not because you have something to fix.
In the midst of painful problems, you can activate your Automatic Success Mechanism. You do this by focusing on previous successes you've had. You do this by coming to understand that you attract more good to you by focusing ON the good you've already got. Not by scratching and clawing and nit-picking problems.
You attract more good by understanding how life works. What you focus on expands. Positive or negative. Focus on problems - the Universe hands you more. Focus on creative ideas (not solutions) and goals and the Universe sends the people, information, places and circumstances your way to help you 'make it happen.'
Not long ago I told a couple who is totally focused on eliminating their 'debt problem' that their objective is off. Once they have eliminated their debt - what do they have?
Nothing but eliminated debt. A big fat zero.
But what if, while in the midst of debt the couple came up with creative ideas that made them wealthy.
Ahhh - mucho differente - don't you think.
My wife and I eliminated our debt years ago
with a combination of strategies - foremost of which was putting aside something for ourselves and 'focusing' on that instead of the debt.
In the midst of major debt - we began creating a wealth account. To feed the wealth account we continually added 10% of everything coming our way. On top of this we came up with creative ideas designed to 'bring home the bacon.'
It didn't take long before our 10% became 20 and 30%. It didn't take long before our wealth account contained MORE than the idea or seed of wealth. We had it.
So think - not of solving problems - not of finding solutions. Think of creating your dream life.