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Fairly eclectic tastes in music from Joan Armatrading to Coldplay, and Celine Dion (French Songs) to Michael Buble.
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Paris, France; Nice, France; Sitges, Spain; Fort Lauderdale, Florida, US; The Everglades, Florida, US; Sydney, Australia; peaceful(HOT) beach with golden sand as its where I'll find my life partner worshipping the sun.
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Planning projects to restore classic cars, driving them to vacation trips and to family gatherings or dinners with friends; reading; creating entrepreneurial business opportunities with like-minded people. Personal development.
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My son was 17 when he started his family, his girlfriend wanted to give the baby up, but he said he would take it on himself. This made her feel like she wasn’t as good as him. So they tried to work it out.
Seven years later they had two kids and a nasty divorce.
We (my husband and myself) felt much like you, we became about money and babysitting.
So one day I sat down with my son and asked the questions. Do you love me? Not my money or my willingness to babysit. But me? He of course said yes.
I asked him to ponder the question for a week and then I would ask him again, but he was also to think about it as if I had cut off all our help. After awhile he agreed to do this. In one week I asked him again, do you love me, this time he had tears in his eyes, as he told me how grateful he was for his family, and he said especially you (meaning me). So I looked him in the tearful eyes and told him I was going away to Italy for a year and he had to take on all the responsibility of his kids. He has 50% custody. He thought I was joking.. but I sit here in Italy writing to you.
Dare to ask the question that is important to you.
My son says he is struggling, he gets a little help from his sister, and Dad is making him pay his way and he is doing most all the care taking for his kids.
But here is what is really happening, he has stayed in college and is getting straight A's, he made the Dean's list again. (he told me if I left he would have to quit school.
He did have to quit his job, because his daughter is in kindergarten and he has to pick her up in the middle of the day. So he started his own small handyman business and is making twice the money and has more time to study. His kids are spending more time with him and loving it. He is growing in leaps and bonds. He is no longer angry with me for coming to Italy, and he calls often and remembers to say. I Love You Mom.
Being a parent was the best thing that ever happened to me. But I'm finding that being a grandparent might be better than that.
You are in for a great journey, just ask the questions that need to be asked and then Tallyho and away.
Jeanne